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Originally Posted by DodgerIrish
Even if they're not co-swingers (or open or whatev), who's to say that she hasn't accepted a don't ask/don't tell m.o. to his cheating?
Do you think she would want to be told in the case?
This does seem like the biggest reason to STFU. We all have things we are basically aware of deep down but would rather stick our heads in the sand about. There's every chance that the wife would be hurt by the cheating but would be hurt even more by having negative suspicions absolutely confirmed so that she's not allowed to lie to herself anymore when that's what she would prefer.
If the two women were closer and she could make a sharper read that the other woman actually would sincerely want to know the truth at the expense of the pain of knowing, perhaps a different story, but given the casual/distant nature of the relationship, it seems like an easy call to stay out.