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Originally Posted by dalerobk2
Also Christmas was never that important to me. I spent nearly ten Christmases alone and really enjoyed myself. She always makes it a big deal. She loves Christmas. And so have I. It's been especially fun seeing how magical it is for the little girl. And the fiancee has made a point of talking about how excited she is to have our first Christmas in the new house.
Before everyone jumps on me for OMG changed story, I just didn't think about it. I've had other things on my mind.
Okay, I'm going to try not to pile on you for this, and I feel bad for your situation, and it sounds like there's even more to the story, if you're distracted by other things on your mind. But I'm definitely not surprised that there is further relevant information, and may still yet be even more.
So for now, I'm just going to ask - can you see how this information is relevant and may have influenced her thought process and decision making?
I'm not saying that she's entirely in the right, and it does sound like she needs to work on her communication as well, but can you understand her POV more now?
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Also I had previously told her that I found the idea hurtful. It is true that I was a bit upset at the time and should have been more calm. Yesterday I talked to her again but in a more dispassionate manner and also had the idea to suggest an alternative trip as someone suggested.
This is a positive step, but there is probably some work that needs to be done, in relation to the way that communication occurred in the first place, with perhaps some issues on both sides, before even getting to the "solution".