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Originally Posted by ElSapo
OP I'm sure this is causing anxiety, sorry man, ****ty situation ... the thing which jumped out at me was the lack of communication, not necessarily the holidays part. But reading your update, none of it really makes sense (not just the non communication part). ...
You got more information from her, but did you tell her how you're feeling? Is she the sort of person who would know what to do with that information? ... Like, if you explain that you're hurt by all this and you want to understand and for future reference, hey holidays are important to you ... is that a good conversation?
Yes. I let her know how I was feeling and that it hurt my feelings. I told her that I had always thought of us as a family and I can't imagine not spending Christmas together as we had for the previous three Christmases.
Generally she would respond well to this kind of conversation. I'm really not sure how she responded to this one. I think she thinks I'm being unreasonable or selfish. Maybe I am. I really am at a loss about this whole thing. I just can't make sense of any of it. Other that it certainly seems to be massive numbers of red flags. Honestly, if it weren't for the little girl, I think I would lean overwhelmingly to abandoning ship. But she really is like a daughter to me now, and I can't imagine my life without her.