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Originally Posted by dalerobk2
She cleared those dates before she had mentioned the specifics of the trip to me. She had vaguely mentioned a mommy daughter trip over Christmas, but I imagined that to be a weekend trip over the break, not 8 days to Europe including Christmas Day.
Dale, the miscommunications seem to be getting mischaracterized somewhat. Can you give more context and detail as to the very first communication she and you have ever had about a mother-daughter trip?
You say that she mentioned the idea to you, before ever planning specifics or clearing time off from work, but that it was vague, and you and she had different ideas in mind about what that meant. Was this the very first time you ever heard about such an idea, and if so, what did she exactly say to you, best you can remember?
Has she ever mentioned such an idea, even in passing, ever before? Like when you were in Paris together, something like "Oh it would be great to take Daughter back here someday" etc?
Have you ever talked about how things may or may not change after you get married? Would that change little to nothing in your mind, and would that change little to nothing in her mind, or would things change in her mind? Would she act this way if you were married?
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Originally Posted by dalerobk2
Fwiw she has made a point of saying that it's not about excluding me as much as this being something she's always wanted to do. Kinda rings hollodw to me but she has at least tried to show awareness of how I'm feeling.
For example, has she ever mentioned that she's always wanted to do this before? And why would that ring hollow?