What are female friendships based on?

Each friend thinks they are the better looking one.

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having your friend be your boss might sound pretty sweet, but its not. It can really put a strain on your friendship and nakes things somewhat awkward at times.

Reading #1 and #2 from your post above makes me think it's not a good idea to put yourself in that situation.

Something different that men don't understand very well and could never replicate (and probably don't want to). If we need to talk about problems we will see a therapist (or start a thread on an Internet forum).

My friend is giving every indication he’s gonna be absolutely insufferable so I declined. He’s such a ****ing stickler for the letter of the law, not the spirit of it. People that can’t discern the difference drive me nuts.

I’ve heard some of his crazy ideas for policies over the years and lol, oh man, he’s gonna learn some hard lessons. Tried to give him some advice but i can tell it just bounced off him.

To think if I had stayed there much longer it mightve been me. Then i never would’ve left.

Don't look back, man. You should look into kickstarting/investing in the most realistic ferry simulator for PC and become the most watched streamer, solving all your problems once and for all.

Ferry Simulator sounds awesome. Would totally buy for $.01 in some trash bundle.

+1

My consensus style of management was not working at all, too many difficult and opinionated personalities. So i switched from group meetings to 1 on 1’s and I just dictate what everyone will do.

Definitely not liked at all by a few members of my team, but **** is getting done now and the higher ups are happy so **** it.

ABP!

Somehow I read this thread, and for the first time, pictured some yokel or small town country guy complaining about his truck driving job, literally delivering nuts....and telling people on a forum that he may quit....lol. I'm gonna quit driving me nuts...it sucks.

'Milkcarton Mayhem' - Pilot the ferry safely into progressively more difficult docks whilst pushing increasing quantities of belligerent nazis into the water.

Bonus level is like original Donkey Kong - get paid by running up the ramp to the office at the top whilst a fat ape with Babs' head hurls whole grilled onions at you.

Power up on Oxy, but watch out for the shrooms - they make you cry and you slide down the ramp on your own tears.

Lmao i could actually make that

Slightly off topic, but are therapists good for issues outside of mental health? I always thought about going to see one to try to understand why I check out out of/sabotage relationships with good women, improve my communication in a relationship, withdrawing from GFs to cause them pain, etc. I see a few of you ITT meet with therapists so you'd have a good idea.

My instinct tells me a lot of this ties back to my relationship with my mom and not growing up with men in my life, but it would be nice to discuss with someone who knows what they are talking about.

Of course. Sometimes it's simply refreshing to speak to a learned, completely neutral party and get their objective take on your life. For me, it's nice to hear the perspective of a reasonably "successful" person who actualized their career path.

This, of course, is not limited to therapists or therapy. However, there's a certain security in seeking said advice/perspective that is wholly focused on you, in a controlled environment/schedule of your choosing.

I have yet to meet a person who would not benefit from therapy.

In the past, every time I thought about going to therapy, I would have that Bill Burr attitude about how I already knew what they would say and that as soon as they say it, I'd go "what a douche".

In reality, when I did talk myself into finally going, even if the therapist said everything I thought they were going to say, it was nice to work myself through my thoughts and put it all into words. We can know the truth about what we're looking for and how we need to change, but we might not fully understand it (or it's easier to just know it and not act on it). For me, going to therapy was almost like that first step for change and it helped me act on all the things I knew I needed to do and change at the time. It made the desire to change "real" and not just in my head.


Even if the first person you go to doesn't work for you, try again.

I tried 6 times. I didn't benefit. But that might also been my trust issues. I couldn't make myself tell the things that did really bother me. Might be I also just didn't find the right therapist. And I felt judged even when I told, from my POV, very innocent things.

I'll look into finding one to meet with. Any advice on how to find one specific to my needs?

I'm guessing I'd want one geared more specifically to men's health/relationships?

Yesterday my friend fired the nazi. haha. Justice is served.

For real though you should see this guy’s fb posts. He is TEXTBOOK spree killer material. He has a lot of guns as well. One of my friends thought about reporting him to the FBI. I hope he doesn’t snap.

If it seems at all reasonable to report someone to the FBI, you should probably just go ahead and do it.

I think the FBI needs explicit threats - I don’t think you can report someone for being a racist weirdo creep.

I'm really interested in the answer to this too. Love the idea of talking through things with a therapist periodically, but seems like finding the right one could be really tough.

I’ve seen therapists a few times but never really got much out of any of them.

Finding a therapist you like is a crap-shoot and it's impossible to know who you'll click with until you meet with them (kinda like dating). But you can increase your chances of finding a good match by getting a recommendation from someone else such as a doctor or a friend (though this is hard, esp for guys, as most guys don't talk to each other about their therapists). You can also do lots of research online through directories (the biggest is https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists) and then checking out their websites and calling/emailing them and letting them know a bit about your situation and seeing what they have to say.

Just because someone looks good on their profile and seems compatible based on some initial communications doesn't mean they'll necessarily be a good match (also like dating), but it's a good place to start.