As a public service, I found a more recent photo and it seems like OP's friend is right.

Taken at work - so nothing salacious here. Sorry.

Go on...........

I can vouch for this guy, your photos are safe

When you have an affair with a married woman, your brain generates conflicting signals of guilt and pleasure. This conflict irritates brain tissues and a tumor results. I thought that was pretty common knowledge.

This can't be real

How'd you find my tindr profile photo?

OP,
I have to commend you on actually following up and answering questions. Solid work on that front. Much more than I can say about the vast majority of similarly written "I did something stupid, now what?" type op's that are so common.

But now its time to stop being a little ***** and post the nudes of your ex. What, do you think some TORRID 26 year old slut is going to go snooping around in some obscure subforum of an online poker board and discover that you posted them?
No, she's not.
More likely she's trying to figure out a way to keep her new coworker **** buddy a secret from your ex best friend.
So get to work.

JJ,


Ok so you saw her in summer and were crushed at your super hot wife divorcing you, and a few months later your buddy says she’s not aging well and you no longer think she’s super hot? That makes no sense unless she did something like pick up a bad meth habit.

In big cities yes
If you live in a small town 1000-10,000 people. There are not so many eligible hot women at all.

op,
natural redhead?

It could have gone much worse for you, both tumor and girl-wise. Good luck to you. Count your blessings.

Teasing out additional details to this story is more interesting than nudes. Yeah, sure, (clothed) pics to establish that OP isn't wildly exaggerating are reasonable to ask for, but begging for fapping material is pathetic. That being said, if they were posted, I would click the link, but I am more interested in filling in some of the yadda yadda to this tale.

For example, BFSIL says that BF is telling BFW stuff that makes BFW not want to invite OP to stuff. Is OP still friends with BFW or did all social interaction flow through BF in recent years? Is BF trying to turn BFW against OP and socially isolate him?

So D,

I'm kinda disappointed in your read here, this is clearly some retail-level banking situation. I would say branch teller.

Maybe those other guys were doing it in the belly button.

Cropped photo without her head will be fine to begin with.

Edit: I see that OP delivered.

Nice job OP.

Didn't you name your magnum opus "mistakes"?

This.

Also this.

People are being pretty tough on OP. Yah, banging the married chick was a low quality human being move, but on the grand scale I'm sure many of us have done worse.

I sympathize with your illness and can't even imagine how tough that must have been (and still probably is). Stay as healthy as possible for as long as possible.

That said, your ex was always going to divorce her first husband, whether or not you came around. You guys were also going to divorce nearly 100%, sickness or not. I hope you realize that you dodged two massive bullets in that she didn't have a child with either of you.

Be thankful for the support you had and move on. If you could pull a 10 year younger woman, you will eventually find someone else. Focus on finding someone less TORRID and more partner.

Also, post more pics and share more funny stories. It's part of the healing process.

No way are you in the minority here - face is absolutely essential for assessing hotness.

How do we know she's not a BOBFOC?

Thread delivers, good job OP.

QFT and I'd think on this a bit if I were you.

Also, some advice from someone who's been cheated on: the sooner you can begin living in the moment, the better. I'd guess you spend a lot of time these days (or at least have recently) playing out imaginary situations and conversations in your mind. Either things that have happened in the past, or confrontations you'd like to imagine yourself having. This will only feed your depression and can strengthen an identity that you've potentially made out of yourself that just gets more and more difficult to move past the longer you live in it. It will also make life with your next gf/wife really difficult for you and her. GL OP.

I assure you it is LOL. That's why I'm telling the story

Her hotness is very secondary to why I'm "crushed" over this. She was starting to get lose her "dancer body" as or relationship progressed. When i first met her she had just graduated college and was on the school "dance team" you know not exactly cheerleaders but they dance or whatever at basketball games and other stuff like that. She danced her whole life up to that point...I feel like when i was sick my brain released some type of dopamine or whatever extra Love hormone that is created when someone takes care of you when you are sick. I can't explain it. She is definitely still and attractive girl and I'm sure most of 2+2 would be more than happy to make the sex with her. Like I said the guy that said she was losing her looks hadn't seen her since she was probably 21-22.

Not a natural redhead. She was always messing her hair. She's a brunette for all intents and purposes.

Best friend def turned his wife against me in certain ways.

I said she she had never been laid properly for several reasons. She lost her virginity to her ex husband when she was 15 and he was 18. Her parents made them stop dating. She actually took her next HS bf's virginity...he later turned out to be gay. There was one other dude after him briefly then when she graduated HS she went back to her fat ex husband with a small package until she met me. I'm not the best looking guy in the world but a major upgrade over what she was used to. I also have a lot more "experience" than the other dudes she was with before me.

Yep completely correct. I think I'll always get depressed around the holidays now however. It brings back ALLLLL the memories but you know what they say. Time heals all wounds. Technically we don't know if I cheated on me(all signed point to yes) The hurt and thoughts come from getting dumped before I was fully recovered, selling my house at a loss, and finding out recently there was a great chance my married friend was sleeping with my ex which then opened up the idea it had been going on since before I got sick but I really doubt it.

Does it even matter? You've spent a ton of time in this thread discussing whether your ex was cheating on you, had multiple conversations about it with those who know her, and wasted more time and energy thinking about it than you can probably admit to or imagine. If I were you, I'd cut ties with anyone trying to discover whether your ex is cheating with your friend. It's just not healthy for you right now and the second you find that concrete evidence that it happened, it's going to send you right down this spiral again.

The point is that you've been deeply hurt (the reason why does not matter) and until you stop encouraging and entertaining all these thoughts and emotions, you are not going to heal. The pain quickly becomes a part of you and is really hard to let go of (as much as being sad and depressed sucks). And as much as I've enjoyed it, this thread isn't doing you any favors either.

Sorry for the ramblings, this is just me trying to reach through the void to help my younger self and win back some time I wasted in the past.

Only if you want it to.

Bad decisions all around ITT. But best advice, OP, is to move on. It is easier said than done.


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My sister in laws (now ex-) husband was constantly looking for hook-ups on craigslist. Apparently, that's a pretty efficient way to do it.

Tinder is also readily available.

She was way too young to commit to a lifelong relationship with either of you, even if she had morals.

Getting her fired doesn't help you in any way. Try to be mature, just for ****s and giggles.

And get laid....best way to start moving on. gl

There are lots of people who get married in their early 20s who don't separate. I'm OPs age, my wife is the same age as the girl in this story and at least so far none of us has the desire to become a single parent.