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02-05-2013 , 10:59 PM
who gives a **** if its cheating or not, its clearly not healthy relationship behavior (there is a huge diff between this and a cam whore site, and that difference is the level of intimacy, hes foring bonds with these girls, not just beating off to them).

That said, you arent going to break up with him, because you two obviously are co-dependant on each other, and if you hooking and him banging crack whores doesnt ruin your relationship, no idea why on earth him pretending to be single and sending dong pics to chicks is going to end it.

just accept your fate and get married.

BUT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GET YOUR TUBES TIED!!!
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02-05-2013 , 11:02 PM
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See that's the thing. I wouldn't care if he did that and I don't really care that females sent him pics. It's him sending pics of himself and talking to these other ladies that bothers me. If he wants someone to talk to it should either be me or his male friends.
I'm busy and work a lot so I don't see him that much and he's very sexually driven so I feel like he's not getting enough from me and then looking elsewhere to satisfy his needs. I've talked with him about it and he says things like its not that and that I satisfy him and stuff so I just don't get it. I don't get why he needs to do that.
Details?
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02-05-2013 , 11:03 PM
If you're serious then it's not exactly "cheating" but it isn't right, and he shouldn't be doing it. But unless you're going to break up with him, I don't know why you're asking us because either way it will end in the same result. If you wanted to break up with him you wouldn't feel the need to ask us and get a second opinion.
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02-05-2013 , 11:06 PM
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who gives a **** if its cheating or not, its clearly not healthy relationship behavior (there is a huge diff between this and a cam whore site, and that difference is the level of intimacy, hes foring bonds with these girls, not just beating off to them).

That said, you arent going to break up with him, because you two obviously are co-dependant on each other, and if you hooking and him banging crack whores doesnt ruin your relationship, no idea why on earth him pretending to be single and sending dong pics to chicks is going to end it.

just accept your fate and get married.

BUT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GET YOUR TUBES TIED!!!
I'm not asking if I should end it. I just want insight as to why he feels the need to do this. Is it because I'm away a lot or do you all think it would happen regardless.
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02-05-2013 , 11:08 PM
You have low self esteem.
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02-05-2013 , 11:11 PM
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I'm not asking if I should end it. I just want insight as to why he feels the need to do this. Is it because I'm away a lot or do you all think it would happen regardless.

You dont turn him on, but he needs the relationship for other reasons

you dont satisfy him sexually

he has low self esteem

he wants to hurt you, and this is his way of doing it (you dont think your elite snooping skills is what caught him do you?)

He doesnt care enough about you or the relationship, to control his impulses whenever he gets excited by the prospect of a new girl.

Hes a sex addict

He wants out of the relationship, but cant make himself do it, so hes trying to sabatoge it.

just like you he needs drama in his life in order to feel "normal", so he creates it.

pick one, or all of them, and theres your answer.


His behavior isnt going to change tho, because his incentives to do what he is doing havent changed.
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02-05-2013 , 11:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Alobar
You dont turn him on, but he needs the relationship for other reasons

you dont satisfy him sexually

he has low self esteem

he wants to hurt you, and this is his way of doing it (you dont think your elite snooping skills is what caught him do you?)

He doesnt care enough about you or the relationship, to control his impulses whenever he gets excited by the prospect of a new girl.

Hes a sex addict

He wants out of the relationship, but cant make himself do it, so hes trying to sabatoge it.

just like you he needs drama in his life in order to feel "normal", so he creates it.

pick one, or all of them, and theres your answer.


His behavior isnt going to change tho, because his incentives to do what he is doing havent changed.
Ok thanks. I think I can pick a couple of those I could see being the reasons.
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02-05-2013 , 11:25 PM
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Ok thanks. I think I can pick a couple of those I could see being the reasons.
which ones?
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02-05-2013 , 11:29 PM
I'm curious what kind of poker conversations he's having with these random women.

Are they consoling him through a downswing?

Are they discussing hand histories?

Just seems so odd.
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02-05-2013 , 11:35 PM
Does he post on 2p2?
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02-05-2013 , 11:38 PM
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Does he post on 2p2?
not since he got banned
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02-05-2013 , 11:38 PM
Self esteem,
He's not getting everything from me he needs (I satisfy him but prob not enough),
We both sort of know this relationship is not a strong one or will last in the future so he probably doesn't care enough about my feelings or the relationship to control his impulses,
He is VERY sexually driven. Not a sex addict but close enough,
And it's not that he needs drama but I think he IS bored and maybe wanted to spice it up some.

So I understand it better now. Thank you. He's the WORST at communication so when I try to talk to him abt this stuff he freezes and doesn't say anything or will say abything that pops into his head. But this all makes sense.
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02-05-2013 , 11:40 PM
alobar, he's not currently banned
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02-05-2013 , 11:43 PM
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I'm curious what kind of poker conversations he's having with these random women.

Are they consoling him through a downswing?

Are they discussing hand histories?

Just seems so odd.
Mostly (and I really didnt read every conversation) but mainly he'd say he was playing poker, they'd ask how he was doing, and he'd briefly explain either he was doing well or had an unlucky hand or something.
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02-05-2013 , 11:45 PM
why were you reading his conversations?
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02-05-2013 , 11:46 PM
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not since he got banned
He didnt get banned. And he has investors and does well. And oddly enough, one thing Killa said when deciding to not ban him was that he occassionally puts updates about me. Weird
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02-05-2013 , 11:49 PM
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not since he got banned
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why were you reading his conversations?
Because he keeps his computer up and open with all the tabs open and he went downstairs to make food so I started reading some of the things that were on his screen. They were right there screaming my name. But I know he didnt purposefully leave it there for me to see. In fact he was trying to get me to stay downstairs with him while he made food
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02-05-2013 , 11:50 PM
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Mostly (and I really didnt read every conversation) but mainly he'd say he was playing poker, they'd ask how he was doing, and he'd briefly explain either he was doing well or had an unlucky hand or something.
Did these conversations happen post nude-pic exchange? With the same women he exchanged pics with?

It sounds like he's just making small talk to be honest, I can't imagine somebody whining about running bad to some random chick he's trying to bang. But if he's already exchanged nude pics, then obviously he's at least somewhat interested.

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02-05-2013 , 11:58 PM
in before
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02-06-2013 , 12:04 AM
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He didnt get banned. And he has investors and does well. And oddly enough, one thing Killa said when deciding to not ban him was that he occassionally puts updates about me. Weird
Is he exiled from OOT?
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02-06-2013 , 12:06 AM
he is not
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02-06-2013 , 12:19 AM
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My boyfriend has old online dating sites. I do too so I never cared or thought anything of it. Recently though I was on his computer and found him talking/chatting to a bunch of women from these sites. I confronted him, we argued and almost broke up but he apologized and said it would never happen again and he wasn't even sure why he did it. He said it was probably just for his self esteem to have these women be into him like an ego boost. But then I looked more into it later and though he DID stop doing it and I didn't find anything new, I read more into what I had previously found. Not only had he been talking to these girls for over a month, but some of them sent him nude pics and he in return sent pics and a nude pic too. He said he was single and so on. It makes me sick. I am gone for work all day while he is unemployed so I often worry that while I'm away at work he could be (or could have) met up with one or more of these chicks. He says no he never has. I just want people's opinions on this issue. I don't think it bothers me so much, it hurt my feelings but he's stopped since. I just worry about whether I have to worry about what he does when I'm away, whether he could be hiding more, and if I should be reacting worse to this than I am. Thanks!
Hi

I kind of did this too while in a relationship. I had active profiles there and basically I don't know why I didn't bother to disable them I was listed as single and sort of got a good feeling from getting messages, I didn't really read them or look at their profile. I would never actively flirt with them or send pictures of any kind, I absolutely don't think that is OK.
Your guy admitted doing what he did and for that he deserves trust but I think you have a right and reason to be suspicious. Beware that he might be capable of cheating and don't let yourself get too attached for now as that will hurt more. Good luck
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02-06-2013 , 12:23 AM
Michelle: One of the reason why the mod told WVU to give some updates on you, is because whether you like it or not, you are now part of this community. A lot of people want to see you get your life straightened out and become the person you know you can be. We care.
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02-06-2013 , 12:23 AM
All you can do is stay in school and get your **** together.

If WVU isn't ready to do the same, you'll have to go your separate ways.

It will be impossible to make positive change if he's constantly dragging you down.

gl
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02-06-2013 , 12:45 AM
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I'm not asking if I should end it. I just want insight as to why he feels the need to do this. Is it because I'm away a lot or do you all think it would happen regardless.
Wake the F up.

The guy clearly doesn't really give a crap about you. At least not in the way you expect someone who truly loves and cares for another person in any normal capacity.

You are both broken people though who need to work on yourselves independently, and without being in a relationship together.

You are never going to see this or listen until it is much later though, so I probably just wasted words/time.

Have some self respect and ditch this relationship, though.

At the very least, stop posting drama here to play out on the internet.
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