Lost mother to suicide (and other stuff)
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 1,056
Just wondering if anyone has any tips for dealing with empty/no future type situations. I lost my mother to suicide and things aren't working out the best right now, not in a relationship, don't know what else to really say. Does anyone have any tips or advice on how to deal with the suicide of a close family member or what I was describing?
Last edited by walkby; 09-11-2022 at 04:29 PM.
Join Date: Oct 2005
Posts: 45,785
You don't need internet tips from anonymous people. You need a therapist and/or a support group. Suicides run in families, so don't delay.
Good luck, and let us know how things are going.
Join Date: Sep 2003
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Sorry to hear. Read Tom’s post again.
Join Date: Sep 2010
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Awful to hear. Sincere condolences.
Tom is correct. Therapist and/or a support group.
Suicide hotline in the states is 988. Give them a call. Even if you aren’t suicidal I think they might have advice/tips for you.
Join Date: Feb 2013
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+1 to therapy and/ or support group and I will add this, for what it's worth:
Although you may not feel so now, one day, you will be whole again. Your job is to put one foot in front of the other until that day comes. Best of luck. Keep us posted.
Join Date: Oct 2018
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Ply your aptitudes whatever they are. It's gold in the soul. For a musician, playing the music ... for a writer, writing ... for an outdoorsman, back to nature ... for anyone healthy enough, walking walking walking ... for artist, drawing ... etc. etc. Journaling. Face something that you are afraid or phobic of. Help someone else even in the face of your down spirits. If we are willing to experience these kinds of lulls you describe, without rushing to fill them with highs of addiction, they really do establish a baseline for feeling better naturally later. If it feels like clinical, overwhelming depression ... that last part isn't so true. That needs treatment and is outside the normal range.
Join Date: Aug 2004
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if you're not working out, I've found that to be extremely helpful in dealing with minor depression, increasing energy, motivation & outlook on life.
Heavy weights and walking works like a champ for me but simply walking can do wonders, ymmv
Hoping you can find peace and hope during this tough time in your life and sorry for your loss
Join Date: Jul 2004
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Sorry for your loss. Definitely look into a support group. I think that's your best option.
Join Date: Oct 2018
Posts: 8,093
"Do what you love" ... is always great advise. If you can. And exercise just changes the frickin chemicals in the brain. You can learn to love it.
