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Originally Posted by nath
I don't think it's necessarily bad to ask someone out you met in an official capacity-- I mean, you can't control where/how you meet someone
Sure, but it’s not like he was stopping in for a cup of coffee and bumped into some random chick while he happened to be on duty. Chick’s family called the police because they felt it was necessary to have an uninterested and objective authority to remove the nut-job and do so through physical violence if necessary. Do you guys not see the difference?
Furthermore, the case is still pending. If he should be called on to testify, the assumption will be that he is, in fact, an uninterested professional police officer. This will obviously now be up for question because he is now personally involved with a member of the family involved. To dismiss that by saying the chick is “not involved” is ridiculous. She’s the sister of the guy with nut-job. OP, if chick goes out with you, will you notify the judge and lawyers involved before testifying that you are involved with her? Will you notify your supervisor? And if you don’t and nut-job is convicted, could that be grounds for an appeal?
And for those of you who are saying this is no big deal, what if you’re that woman? What if a person who only knows your name and address through their official role as an authority with real power then uses that info to contact you for personal reasons? Does that honestly not seem like an abuse of their position?
Look, I’m a man and have two testicles and all, so I understand OP’s spot here. I’m not even against contacting her, but OP has to make it look coincidental and not purposeful. Furthermore, if he ever had any official role in this case (filing a report or testifying) he should notify everyone involved about his personal involvement with said chick.
Last edited by dalerobk; 03-17-2009 at 04:24 PM.