It's really hard right now ,my mom is dying of cancer and I am having to take care of her.

But in a weird way it keeps me going.

After she dies, who knows

Damn, sounds like you've gone card dead... just make it through the night and don't expect to feel great right now.

I find music to be something that helps me through the low points in life, ofc ymmv.

Hang in there, I remember you being a really good poster (although I don't remember exactly why... not here that often these days).

Your therapist sucks, they should be on your side and afaik there's no uniform timeline for grief. Find a different one and/or maybe some kind of support group.

Things that have helped me when I am feeling down:

1. Walking while listening to a podcast/music
2. Eating a delicious and healthy meal (grilled salmon with a legitimately good salad)
3. Massage
4. Sauna, Cold Tub, & Hot Tub
5. Reading
6. Meditating
7. Journaling or Writing (screenplay, novel, or whatever - just get some creativity going)
8. Tennis or Ping Pong (I think this is highly underrated because it requires side to side eye movement which is similar to EMDR which has been proven to help people heal from trauma.)
9. Talking to a friend or a therapist

Don't expect to go from being unhappy to even neutral in a day or a week. It will take time. But, if you have enough positive days, you'll wake up one day and won't feel the way you do right now.

And it will happen when you least expect it.

Just make a list of things that make you feel better and a list of things that make you feel worse. Focus on that list and try to be productive any way you can. Even if that's doing laundry or watering your plants. You've got this.

Eeyorefora,

A few years ago I went through similar with my Mom. Something that helped me get through was throwing myself into work around her house.

She kept everything, didn't do a good job on maintenance, so when I was up there, there was always something to do. The work kind of took my mind off the real reason I was visiting.

Best of luck. Hope you can get through this as well as possible.

eye, try to get into a routine where you get some exercise, preferably outdoors

every day i take a few bong rips then go for a 2-3 hour walk outdoors, often doing laps in the nearby cornfields, will be playing podcasts or listening to music - been doing for a few weeks now and not only am i getting into great shape but i haven't felt this good in years

otherwise not into smoking pot anymore but it's nice when i'm about to be doing outdoor activities

also, for real getting into no fap is a tremendously easy way to jump start an escape from depression, actual sex is fine but there's something about beating off that is so condusive to just laying in bed or sitting on that couch alone and doing nothing but wallowing in your own depression

glgl

Thanks for the support and suggestions guys.

I definitely got to get a new therapist, had to cancel this week due to my mom having a serious medical issue and the ***hole acted like I was wasting his time when I told him.

So I ended up telling him to go **** himself and if I was dead it was his fault.

Just did it out of spite, don't intend to off myself, but would be the pits if I got hit by a bus.

The ****? What an abusive shitty thing to say to someone. Maybe be an adult and apologize to that person

Nah, **** that guy, I'm the one going thru trauma and he was making it seem like no big deal.

Ehh guess I was being a dickhead. Carry on

No problem my friend, it's one of those situations where you don't know how to react til it happens to you.

Ayyy I remember op. Good people iyam. Top quality very good <3

Got a break from watching mom and went to a casino, got robbed, a skanky crackhead stole my ticket out of machine I was playing.

For some reason I'm good with it


Just feeling copacetic.

Mom's just not being cool, she hates us,says we weren't raised right,lol
I wish cancer doesn't affect you.

Hey rickroll pm me she says you my only hope

Thanks for all the messages I have gotten, I know it's going to be a long road, so knowing how others have done it helps in a way

But it still sucks

Hang in there OP. Keep posting here.

When you're at your lowest the only place is up from there. Hope you break the funk.

<3

This, staying active is really important, hang in there champ.

You're welcome Eeyore.

Always remember there's a community on here that cares about you and your well being.

Mom has went to that big casino in the sky this evening.

Went peacefully, just after a group of her friends came to see her, they sang amazing grace and she passed like 5 minutes later.

Not a big faith person anymore, but glad she went like that.

Condolences

Better ending than most get

Condolences.

Nice that the friends came by when they did.