I just think telling the wife is such a pussy move. My God, women love drama, why give them more reason to have it. What good does telling the wife do for you? None.\

Bunch of virgins itt imo

SO PUMPED FOR SATURDAY GOD I WISH I COULD DVR AS HE POSTS JUST INCASE I MISS IT

If she does this threaten to tell everyone in her social circle, with it presented under the light of 'she cheated on me with a married man, I try to walk away without causing a fuss, and now she is trying to bilk me out of thousands of dollars!'

Leaving her and not telling her why only works if she is neurotic, imo.

It's just unrealistic. You need to scream at her, say hurtful things and get some closure.

Lol. Running in to the dude and wife while out and about at Walmart. Classic.

Is his wife ugly? Your ex much better looking right? How big is the age difference. I always found it weird when old men date younger women. It becomes less weird when it's like 60 yr man with 45 yr old woman though.

Must have had her waiting in the car.

Where do the cheaters work? I'm thinking Applebees or Best Buy.

Tim Hortons

Pretty weak decision, only a pussy would let this guy bomb his bottom bitch without at least a cursory shanking.

OP should have told us his prediction to what would happen if he did pull the revenge stunt.

Like is the ex aggressive/crazy? is she likely to retaliate? Is she the emotional cry me a river type?

Your life and your decision of course.

I like the plan with the wife.

However if you do go with the facebook/ computer/ tell everyone shes a whore wrath path you will look like and, subsequently later, feel like, a bitch. She will feel further justification/ satisfaction in cheating on you, which might not bother you, but secretly it could.

If you deal with with everything gracefully, like a man not a scorned boy, you will feel good about everything once time has passed. And look back on the whole situation as a moment where your true character shined in the face of adversity.

I hope you read my only previous post on this thread, however long, as I still stand by my opinions on;
a) Keeping your integrity
b) Making this a moment where you can look back with pride.
c) Talking with her, if for the last time, so that you have no regrets or baggage in the years to come. Say everything you want. If she meant something to you, tell her. If she hurt you, tell her. Then leave. If nothing else it will hurt her more than just leaving silently.
c) Confronting him like a man so you feel closure and demi-god like satisfaction. Look him in the eyes and tell him you've told his wife. Smile slightly. Stay Calm, keep a level voice. Enjoy it.

All these things take strength and courage. Publicly shaming her doesn't.
I still believe it is good advice based on sound experience.

Be cool.

This, except another option is to just dump her without an explanation. Let her wonder...

Gold star.

chicks who have moved on mentally by cheating with married guys aren't exactly the types i'd expect to wonder.

Just wanted to put one more final vote in for not telling the wife. I preface this by saying I realize the husband is totally at fault here, but there is a kid involved. I suppose if you can honestly say you are doing it for humanitarian reasons ok, but if you are screwing with a kids life just to get an hour of satisfaction through revenge it is pretty weak.

cheating husbands itt

Sure they are. Girl cheats = girl is bored and decides she can do better. Unaware bf then breaks up with same girl = looks like HE can do better, which will make her question what's wrong with her. And question. And question.

It's the same thing as the usual double standard where guy cheats = guy is a scumbag, girl cheats = guy is a bad bf. A girl will def simultaneously cheat out of boredom AND fritz out if the guy she was bored with dumps her. You want what you can't have.

'Course, this thread existing kinda blows the lid off the 'don't ever tell her you know' stratagem anyway

no they aren't.

i'm not going to elaborate for two pages why. if you can't see it, it won't help to explain the most trivial point in such detail anyway.

your reasoning is bs, starting off from a ridiculous assumption doesn't make your point valid, no matter how well you think you're arguing the consequences.

If him dumping her doesn't bother her at all, it prob means she was out of OP's league anyway and started cheating when she realized it.

as always, pics would settle this ldo

Mean Girls might give you some good ideas

If Saturday's the last time you'll ever see her, you should plan some glorious hate-****ing tonight. Anything you've always wanted to do but been afraid to ask? Now's your chance.

zero chance i'd be able to say nothing for days, **** would be out immediately. wtf?

+1

Could you really sleep in the same bed for a few nights?