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Originally Posted by DonkDonkDonkDonk
+1000 hitting them back never has a positive expectation. People do it because they are insecure and think that they need to 'be a man' or 'stand up for themselves' or some other BS. Life isn't some sort of primal fight for survival, grow up.
LOL
What "sophisticated" world do you live in?
If OP wants to tell his wife, he should. I don't think he's obligated to, and I think he should prepare himself for all sorts of responses, but to suggest he shouldn't out of respect for the sanctity of their marriage...
I know all of you are smart enough to have a tough time saying that phrase out loud without laughing, or maybe throwing up in your mouth a little. And if you really do believe in the concept, then you know how difficult it is to find someone else who agrees with it.
It seems pretty simple to me: if she doesn't already have the information, would she want it? I vote yes. And if she already knows/is doing it herself/etc, then OP will just be some random guy telling her something she already knows. Some people
should have gotten divorced. Besides, what about the psychological effects on the kid as they get older and begin to realize that something fundamental is lacking in their parents' relationship? Or worse, that it was a big lie? And of course, this works both ways, forever and ever... which is why it's ultimately irrelevant.