Grunching: pics or gtfo?

No, we're not. Walking away from physical confrontations when you can does not make you a pussy. We're redefining terms, not using ridiculous outdated nonsense. Then again, you whole life is ridiculous outdated nonsense so I wouldn't expect you to understand.

Most people would disagree and since the question is about public perception that is all that matters. While I'm not completely against lashing out and striking back for someone in OP's situation to do that it has to be a lot more than some pathetic internet smear campaign and ratting the guy out. Normally guys who end up on OP's position though are completely incapable of that so doing nothing is best.

so if you see a man physically abusing his wife you shouldn't get involved, whether that be getting involved yourself or calling the cops?

The world is a cruel place, IMO you should defend yourself.

The wallmart situation is an example for the guy who said "Yes I can" when I told him you cant control a mans actions.

I never said fighting is BETTER than running away, but in order to defend yourself you have to man up. It's life. Same reason why animals in the wild fight. We are no different, its instinct.

If someone here can honestly say that they are going to get hit in the face and "run away" then you are either a huge ****ing pussy or ******ed.

great post. most people in this thread won't get it though, they will be too wrapped up in the absolute horror of a woman having sex with more than one person.

You used the term "running" to describe the action and the whole motivation is to avoid the possible consequences of the confrontation. I'm not redefining anything. That is being a pussy. If you are fine with that then great but you are kidding yourself if you actually believe it doesn't have an impact on other aspects of your life.

Not hitting back doesn't make you a pussy or affect the rest of your life. There are many ways to be a pussy ***** about the situation whether you hit back or not. Hitting back and getting stabbed affects your life a lot more than a few judgemental people thinking you are a pussy.

I wouldn't want some random telling me, especially if they were the spouse of the person my partner was cheating with. Of course I would like to know, but when someone ****s up your life like this out of spite then it obviously reflects badly on them.

I think it is pretty funny that I am an idiot because I have too much pride to let someone abuse me and get away with it.

This thread has turned into a pussy-fest. Not suprising considering 75% of everyone IIT is probably 135 lbs and detached from society.

Have fun getting your glasses pushed into your skull. I'm sure when you go to sleep alone at night you will feel awesome knowing you we're the "Bigger Man".

No. I actually agree with you on that. You're an idiot because of the way you articulate points.

I think a lot of things he could do, like posting crap on her facebook or whatever, would be viewed as crazy or pathetic. I just don't think telling the wife is in that category.

Explain.

lol

can others in the 'telling wife is wrong' camp answer whether or not they would like to know if their spouse were cheating on them?

Re-read your walmart example in 5 years.

I think this point has been rinsed and repeated by the 'tell the wife' side about 100 times already in this topic.

And I'm not sure what to make of your 'lol', could you please elaborate?

Do you still not understand who that was directed to and why?

I was simply giving an example of how you can't control a random person's actions. If there was a guy in walmart who wanted to hit someone, he will. You can't control being hit. You can decide to fight back or run, but you can not control getting hit. Someone ITT said that he in fact can control that situation.

If it were a good friend of mine, I'd thank them for telling me.

If it was a rando I'd think to myself why is he telling me this and if it was out of spite I'd be extremely pissed off.

I don't think the reason matters. Some are going to think it's out of spite while some will think it's for her sake. As it stands right now it's the latter, at least according to the OP.

I just don't think it's ever 'for her interest' I think it's just a way of hurting him because he hurt you and I think that is spiteful not only to him but to her as well.

Jesus christ.

great comeback, I chose the same option as you (A), but a lot of your reasoning ITT makes no sense

I think it was an apt comback as your example was ******ed.

Fine, if you want to define "being a pussy" as running away from a fight, then I'm more than happy to be a pussy in Henry17's world.

The problem you have is assuming that avoiding -EV physical confrontations means you avoid all confrontations, or aren't willing to stand up for yourself verbally when necessary. Just because we pussies aren't literally fighting for ourselves doesn't mean we aren't doing it in other areas.

Avoiding unnecessary physical confrontation is a mark of maturity and self-confidence, not the other way around. Especially so since as The Phallus pointed out, our immediate reaction when one hits or threatens us is to fight, but since we have more advanced cognition then other animals we are able to use our uniquely human sensibilities to rationalize the choices available to us.

Again, I don't expect to you get any of this; your whole identity is tied into defining yourself as a certain type of person based on some ideal that you must have gotten from watching 1950s movies. But at least you're not a pussy.

I would guess that of the "tell the wife" camp, a large % of them have known people who were cheating on a significant other and of all those instances, only a very few times did people in the "tell the wife" camp actually inform someone that they were being cheated on. The whole "she has a right to know" argument is a complete sham, used as justification to get back at the guy who hurt OP. I don't buy for one second that there's a bunch of people in this thread who are going around exposing infidelity.

Obviously this shouldn't be the motivation, but not everyone is going to look at it this way.