It is out of the ordinary, they do charge single males about 25% more than both members of a couple combined. I think this help curb the single men attendance.

This is sort of a long story for me. I had always told my wife since we started dating that if we were going to have a life long relationship the chance of me staying faithful was near 0%. She was not very happy with this, but accepted it. I told her that I could do what the vast majority of people do and cheat on her without her knowledge, but I'd rather be honest as its the dishonesty that I feel hurts people most when their spouse cheats.

So, we date for 5 years and get married (I actually never had sex or even fooled around with another woman until we started swinging.) A year into our marriage she finds another guy attractive and asks for my blessing to have sex with him. I told her to go for it. This actually didn't work out as the guy had some mental issues/serious religious issues. We decided at this point to look into swinging

Sort of both as I explained above. We did have some jealousy issues but we've worked through them and our relationship is 100% better for working through them, which we never would have done if it weren't for swinging.


The youngest I've seen is probably around 20, the oldest maybe 65, total group heavily weighted to the younger side. We are 27 and 26.

Wife and I are in our late 40's. She looks like she is in her 30's. She has exhibitionist tendencies which I enjoy.

I can't really see us becoming swingers, but I could see my wife wanting to show off her assets in such a setting.

Would we be welcome or out of place? How would we be viewed in a swinger club? Old weird perverts or as part of the overall scene?
I guess I am asking would we fit in?

As far as just being an exhibitionist that isn't an issue a lot of people that is their thing. Generalizing from the club I've been to there are areas that are specifically for that. When you go upstairs there are these things that are what I assume WWF rings must be like. Some are just one square segregated and others are multiple squares connected. If you just want to be left alone you'd go to one of the segregated squares. They also have little rooms similar to those things where you take your picture in the mall. You can go and have sex there in somewhat private since there is a curtain.

With respect to the age I am not qualified to comment. This isn't a lifestyle thing for me so I have no idea what the membership criteria is like and I assume it varies greatly between clubs. If I had to guess I'd say the age doesn't matter as much as your physical appearance.

You'd be welcome. All different types go to swingers clubs: voyeurs/exhibitionists, soft swappers (everything but intercourse,) and full swappers. One thing we've participated in, that you may enjoy, is same room sex. This is where you have sex with your wife and another couple has sex in the same room. You wouldn't really be considered old either. Its a bell curve, you're on the downside but still in the top half. I hope that makes sense.

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Do swingers clubs tend to smell like bodissy?

Long ago I went to a swinger's club accidentally. I was young and stupid and should have realized when some skeezy french man was paying my 100 dollar cover. It was called Le Trapeze, somewhere in NYC and everybody was on the unattractive side. It was so not sexy. I left right away. I am so not a prude but the people were gross and it reeked of disease.

I find it interesting how the thread regained seriousness, so OP bumps, and Contortionist closes. Very circus-like twists and good info. Thanks OP!

Once went to this swinger club called red rooster in vegas many years ago. Ended up going home with this older couple. Dude was fat but wife was decent so I went for it! The sex was kinda awkward but they had a nice hot tub and gave me snacks.

Lol they gave you snacks

Have been to swingers clubs and resorts, and had fun no matter what, if you're participating or not.

When I was first divorced I got into the nonmonogany lifestyle and hooked up with a girlfriend who was okay with it, so we experimented for about a year. It was truly eye opening towards conventional ideas of sex and relationships.

Ended up becoming a bull for hotwives for a bit, and 100% would recommend. Most of the older wives take very good care of their bodies and their husbands just like to watch them have fun or hear about it afterwards. One guy at the resort was a former Marine and just loved to watch and video tape his wife having sex. He didn't even need to hook up with the partner. A lot of the husbands didn't or were okay with it not happening as long as their wives had a good time.

Swingers are usually older established couples who just want some spice and don't want to break up, but there's a healthy crop of young people who like variety as well. They just usually don't have the emotional maturity to deal with it after the fact. Guys often suggest it thinking they will get laid no problem, but it's the women who have their pick of the litter instantly. Had a couple where they turned "poly" and it took the guy six months to get laid, meanwhile his girlfriend was getting laid four times a week with a quick Tinder profile. All it leads to is resentment and jealousy unless you have the bandwidth to handle it.

Work acquaintance was flirty with a co-worker years ago and proposed an open relationship with his wife so he could bang the co-worker guilt free and wife agreed. He told flirty co-worker about it and she stopped being flirty meanwhile wife started having the time of her life. His super plan spectacularly backfired.

Needless to say they were divorced within a year. Fortunately, no kids.

Spend any amount of time on any of the relationship subreddits, or really, use your common sense, and realize that an open relationship is going to go bad for the man 95% of the time.

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