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Originally Posted by cassette
Well...I'm not really sure what to say. "Try hitting her" is pretty gross parenting advice.
My position is nowhere near that simple and I’ve never advocated corporal punishment used as a first resort or as a commonplace matter. But used sparingly and carefully, it is a perfectly appropriate and valid parenting tactic — particularly when getting them to understand the proper limits of their behavior.
My evidence is purely anecdotal. Both of my children are mature, respectful, self-motivating and kind, and I have close relationships with both of them. Both of them — now 16 and 19 — would entirely agree that each of their circumstances warranted a spanking. As young adults, both of them are both entitled to and capable of arguing with me on any issue, as they often do.
A hard rule against spanking is foolish and bound to ideology rather than reality IMO.