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Originally Posted by jmakin
And before you say I don't know what I'm talking about, i've been in a relationship with someone who thinks like you. No matter WHAT I did, it was never enough. And god forbid if I wanted one night alone to myself, she'd turn it into this unholy crusade about how I don't really care about her, she's done x, y, and z for me, and i can't even spend ONE NIGHT at her place! never mind the fact that I spent the last 47 nights there, no, she'll only remember the one time I didn't and bring it up every single time she felt like I didnt REALLY love her.
It's the same **** with you. He has actually shown a lot of effort. More than a lot of men probably would in his spot. Could he do better? Sure, everyone can. But you turn the slightest rejection into this huge thing when I'm positive there's things you're leaving out or ignoring about the relationship that don't fit into your victim narrative.
J, i understand what you are saying. But, when we lived together he spent 3 nights a week going to see his family using my car and money. I wasn't giving him a hard time about being away from me.
Ok, he thinks I'm boring and doesn't want to go out places with me. But, if you had a girlfriend, and she asked you to go to a game with her, you wouldn't at least suck it up and go one time a year with her instead of your sister whom you always go with?
He doesn't like to go out to eat or sit and talk with me. I've accepted this and just go by myself. It's easier to accept because he's not wanting to do it with someone else.
Yeah, he puts in effort and does things for me. But, I want him to want to go out and have fun with me and come support me. I know this is going to sound insane jealous, but it really feels like his sister gets all the boyfriend benefits from him. They go out, he supports her, and then I come off as a crazy person when I want this from my boyfriend. Well all of my therapist don't think I'm crazy and tell me being upset about this is normal.
I'm not going crazy because he goes to games with his sister. He goes Everytime with his sister. We went this year, but I had to buy the tickets and tell him we were going and be anxious and nervous for a week hoping he would actually go with me.
This is also crazy, but I just saw that my bday is on a Friday this year and there will most likely be a game that night and I'm already worried that he will go to his sister on my birthday again because he did before when I begged him not to for 2 months. I know this is crazy to already be anxious and worried about, but I can't help it. I was looking to book a trip that weekend yesterday, so he can't have any reason to do that to me again and a trip will be booked for months, and he can't come in and say his sister already asked him to go. I told him yesterday I was planning a trip and he didn't respond so I've been anxious since I've ask him think he someone trying to reserve that weekend for his sister already.