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Originally Posted by ClarkNasty
Hair dying and piercing thing is bad, bad news.
Why though? I haven't seen her this happy since I first met her. And I should add that it wasn't like she said I should get an eyebrow piercing out of the blue. It was something I have said to her that I have wanted to get and have been considering it for a while.
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Originally Posted by jlozan84
Go look up lunatic - that's precisely what it is. It's not our fault you fail to see or accept that reality.
How do you know any of this is real? These people are master manipulators. She could be embellishing this stuff to the n'th degree or making all of it up. You clearly still don't get it. And regardless, plenty of people had crap that had to go through growing up - not everyone ends up clinically diagnosed with BPD.
Synonyms of Lunatic:
- Maniac - Madwoman -Psychopath -Psychotic
I don't see her as any of those things. When you think Maniac, you think serial killer, not someone with BPD. I really don't see Lunatic as a fair word to describe her at all.
And it is all real, if it's not, then she should move to Hollywood, because she will be an Oscar Winner by 2015.
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Originally Posted by ReidLockhart
OP, some people think you're missing the red flags. I'm not going to assume you're naive enough to be missing them, but I will instead say that you're choosing to ignore them.
Is there a nagging under-voice in your head that's always saying "man, I don't want to deal with this".
Yes, the last 3 weeks has given me a much clearer picture of what I am getting into, and it's a lot heavier than I was expecting, and I have questioned why I am hanging around, and if this all worth it, and if I should just end it, but the positives in the relationship, like just last night, she wanted to smoke, and we got high in bed together while I watched her play Assassin's Creed IV, then we listened to some tunes and we were laughing and having an amazing time, and then she fell asleep on my chest. Times like last night just make it all worth it to me... I mean it's 6PM right now the next day, and I am still feeling good from last night, and if you guys felt how I felt just 6 months ago, you would understand why I need times like last night so badly.
With that said, this Monday I am going to tell her that I just need two nights a week to grind, and I don't know how she will take it, but like a lot of you said "It's your house", and I know I need to set this boundary, and I think it will be good for me as well, so I can spend those days focusing in on my job, rather than pretty much 24/7 on my gf? I think it will also be good for her, so neither of us become overly dependent on each other
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Originally Posted by NLSoldier
Everything there was legit, although tbh I was exaggerating about the vasectomy. I wanted to get it done at 18. I did find a doctor that was willing to do it. But like almost everything else in my life, I didn't build up the courage to go through with it and backed out the day before the operation. I always told myself I would do it soon though, and after I was cheated on twice in 12 months, I used to tell every girl I dated by the third or fourth date that I was snipped, just to see their reaction, and if it was positive, I promised myself to get it done by the end of that month. My way of thinking was, that if she could accept that, then she obviously was someone that truly accepted me for me and that she wouldn't cheat on me. Looking back on it now, I realise how weird, stupid and messed up that was. It was like I was sabotaging myself deliberately in hindsight,
And you are thinking of the dinner party where Jan throws a Dundy at Michael's 8 inch "Plasma" TV. Lol.