Like Alobar with Babs, it seems Larry has bitten off more than he can chew with MLY.

haha yeah. who hasn't dated one of these types tho??

the best is when they play the "guess what i'm feeling game" which turns to "lets sit in silence until i'm done with you"

actually the best is when they follow you for years after the fact in a sly attempt to preoccupy your thoughts and/or destroy you? this totally did not happen.

Jmakin,

I'm confused. Do you think you will get your message across? It's pretty clear she's having an episode, and I doubt anything you'll say will have any impact for the better. Honest question, since you deal with mental illness yourself.

When she's in this state she seems capable of genuine moments of self reflection. Honestly though, i dont care. I'm kind of tired of it all. This whole act is stale. She needs help and wont seek it. What else is there to do? People baby her and coddle her delusions.

Does it show what thread you are reading when you are invisible? If it doesn't possibly Code3 should consider going invisible. I feel really sorry for M, it must be awful having such terrible lows and intense jealousy. I'd be doing anything I could to get on top of it. Try to anyway.

This can't possibly be right. You should get another opinion.

Jesus christ make this stop, have some respect for the dead

J, i understand what you are saying. But, when we lived together he spent 3 nights a week going to see his family using my car and money. I wasn't giving him a hard time about being away from me.

Ok, he thinks I'm boring and doesn't want to go out places with me. But, if you had a girlfriend, and she asked you to go to a game with her, you wouldn't at least suck it up and go one time a year with her instead of your sister whom you always go with?

He doesn't like to go out to eat or sit and talk with me. I've accepted this and just go by myself. It's easier to accept because he's not wanting to do it with someone else.

Yeah, he puts in effort and does things for me. But, I want him to want to go out and have fun with me and come support me. I know this is going to sound insane jealous, but it really feels like his sister gets all the boyfriend benefits from him. They go out, he supports her, and then I come off as a crazy person when I want this from my boyfriend. Well all of my therapist don't think I'm crazy and tell me being upset about this is normal.

I'm not going crazy because he goes to games with his sister. He goes Everytime with his sister. We went this year, but I had to buy the tickets and tell him we were going and be anxious and nervous for a week hoping he would actually go with me.
This is also crazy, but I just saw that my bday is on a Friday this year and there will most likely be a game that night and I'm already worried that he will go to his sister on my birthday again because he did before when I begged him not to for 2 months. I know this is crazy to already be anxious and worried about, but I can't help it. I was looking to book a trip that weekend yesterday, so he can't have any reason to do that to me again and a trip will be booked for months, and he can't come in and say his sister already asked him to go. I told him yesterday I was planning a trip and he didn't respond so I've been anxious since I've ask him think he someone trying to reserve that weekend for his sister already.

M,

Are you still taking your medication?

You aren't Code's girlfriend.

MLY,
Have you tried setting his car on fire?

Yes, I just added Wellbutrin.

I don't care that he does things with other people. It just hurts me when he chooses to do things with other people instead of me. Like my SB game. I asked him to come and he went to podcast instead. Ok, he doesn't want to watch me play sports and doesn't like baseball/softball, but he does the podcast literally every single week. He can't choose to come support me one time? Am I insane for feeling like this?
If you had a girlfriend and you didn't care about her activities wouldn't you just support her anyway because you love her? Am I expecting too much?
I was looking for him to show up last week and when I texted him and he said he was podcasting and not coming my heart broke like all the other times. He doesn't have to choose me everytime, just once or a couple of times a year.

Do you get embarrassed when you read these messages after you calm down? Do you realize how crazy you sound?

You understand this, right? It was just a few weeks ago you were saying you were moving on from Code and weren't going to expect this kind of stuff from him anymore. Everyone told you it was a bad idea to keep seeing him at all and this is why. Yet another example of good advice ignored, but somehow you're the victim again.

So he spent 4 nights a week with you and 3 nights a week with his family, and you felt shortchanged.

Who is going to volunteer to try to find MLYLT an affordable therapist who won't tell her she should leave Code?

It's pretty uncommon for players to bring boyfriends/girlfriends who aren't on the team to social sports like softball or kickball in my experience

The real abused boyfriend is 2+2.

You are expecting to much. It is plain dumb what you are expecting from him. You are trying to make him feel certain way. -> Not gonna happen.
It was told you many times from people here, from your therapists and a bunch of other people in RL. You behavior is dumb and self-destructive.
You drive yourself insane.

My fiance doesn't like ball room dancing. I do. Am I gonna try to pull him there either to dance with me or to watch me dancing with other guys? Hell, no! I am going to go to my dance training and he will keep himself busy. Tx God, he can do it and doesn't expect me to be constantly around him.

Does he choose me sometimes? Yes he does. There is no way that I would do all travelling to keep the relationship alive. And if that means that I would be single, so I would be single.

edit: You make so much drama about nothing. If I would be code I would run after the second time you make such terror. Stop that ****.

No, not for that. You are insane for thinking something might change.
My experience is the opposite.

I don't realize how crazy I sound. The things are real in my mind, the fears are real at the moment. I don't know what's normal and what's crazy. I do realize that I overreacted to things or misremembered things and made things seem worse than they were after I calm down. When I'm manic it's like my brain is taken over and I have no control of my thoughts.

Code 3 read what I wrote and texted me this morning. He says all of what I write is lies and he is sort of right. I'm not lying, it's just how I remember things, then he says , "no, this happened and you did this or that" and then I remember correctly. Like when he was driving from Tyler to Dallas 3 times a week. Yes he was doing it, but I wasn't supportive at all and I gave him a hard time about it Everytime and was really possessive and didn't want him going at all.

I'm feeling upset about him not coming to SB last week or this week, but he had already said he was coming next week yet I'm still upset when I shouldn't be.

And the thoughts lead to the feelings.

MLYLT must change her thoughts and expectations to stop the feelings she is having. But this can't possibly be new information to her.