Girlfriend catching him posting is a likely outcome.

Question is what happened after she found out? Pretty safe bet that she threw more than a plate at him.

Pretty worried too, hope dude is alright. As much **** as many of us gave him, none of us would wish harm upon the fella.

He shouldn't have used his name as his username.

Michael Scarn (google searched it) some stupid Secret Agent name from a made up movie from Michael Scott on the American version of the office.

Ahh ok

Maybe they both moved on and are in a happy, functional, mutually beneficial relationship filled with love and caring?

^lol

What's so sad is that if she found this, she should know that he is all about being with her and never question him about his loyalties ever again...but the truth is that this would send her WAAAAAY over the edge and would be one of the biggest negative things she'd hold over him for the rest of the relationship.


Poor guy...

Ill take that if someone gives me 99-1

RIP MichaelScarn

sucks that this chick murdered him so quickly, could have been some good storytellin' itt

If only we'd gotten that money to the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder sooner.

This should have been a cautionary tale for code 3

Code 3, I see you reading this. If you are so concerned, why dont you try not ****ing rejecting and ignoring me. Fine, I have BPD (there is nothing wrong with my personality though). People with BPD cant handle rejection and the first thing you do is reject me and take away your love because you know you can punish me like that. You think if you punish me it will condition me to not be crazy; when I get manic and you take away your love you think it will make me not manic. NEWS FLASH, that is the worst possible thing for you to do and you cant stop me from being crazy by trying to hurt me.
All you have to do is say, "I know your upset right now, its going to be okay" or any freaking positive thing besides ignoring me!

LOL forgot about this thread

^LOL M just don't, this cant possibly be good for you

Agreed! Personality disorder is horrid terminology and I can't believe they haven't changed it. They finally changed Mental ******ation to Intellectual Disability. Personality disorders need a new term as well.

Temperament Disability

Code 3 was reading this thread earlier, and everyone told to OP to leave......just ****ing great! He just texted me goodnight and I mentioned this and asked if everything was going to be okay, and he didn't respond and wont answer the phone.

If i get triggered or upset, I start texting code 3 like crazy. All I want is for him to comfort me, but he just rejects and ignores me because he knows thats what hurts the most, and he is always the reason Im goddam triggered in the first place.

This sounds really stupid, but the reason I got triggered today is because my therapist was telling me I have to accept that code 3 will always put me second to his family and I have to accept that or leave because thats who he is and where he wants his priorities. Then, right after I ****ing leave therapy code 3 text me to tell me he isnt going to come see me and come to my sb game because its too late. This is after he didnt come last week because he went to do the ****ing podcast with his sister and the other *****. I feel bad for even asking him to come and drive 4hrs to see me for 2, but when he lived in Tyler with me he drove multiple times a week 4hrs round trip to podcast with his sister and go to games with her. I thought it was rediculous for him to do that and kind of feel its rediculous for him to make the trip to see me, but he did it for them so why cant he do it for me? Thats what pisses me off, he goes out of his way to do things for other people and I always come last or I dont get the same treatment. He went to do the podcast and support them 50 times that year using my car and gas and has done it over 250 times, why cant he drive to me just one time to support me?
It was the same with the basketball games; he had gone to many many games with his sister and I begged him for 2 1/2 years!!!! to go with me. It took 2 1/2 years for him to go to a single game with me. Now we have been dating I think 4 years and he has never came to watch me play a sport or support me for anything, this will be the first time....why is he making excuses and not wanting to do it? He came and helped me move twice this summer and drove 7 hrs to AR on saturday, but he wont come support me when this is the one thing I want him to do. I can do all the other ****ing stuff on my own, I want him to come act like he cares about me!

Its the same goddam cycle over and over. I want him to act like he cares. When I tell him something is important to me, I want him to show up. He doesnt show up and doesnt act like he cares and goes to see his sister instead. Every freaking time. He makes me feel like Im nuts for be jealous of his sister, so I talk with my therapist and try to analyze my reactions to when he does this. They respond with, " He doesnt really care about you, or he wouldnt do this." Every ****ing therapist says the same goddam thing every ****ing time. This is the 4th therapist now.
When I tried to bring this up with code 3 tonight his reaction was, "I told you Im not talking about this anymore", so basically just reinforcing what the therapist said. He doesnt care about me or he would act different, I can accept this or leave and code 3 just wants me to stay and accept this. I have to accept that if I really want him to be there for me and there is a podcast or anything else going on at that time, then that comes first and he will always choose being there for everyone else over me.

Code 3 thinks Im not telling the stories right and thats why the therapist keep telling me he doesnt care and to leave. NO, I want the issues resolved even if Im at fault and reacting wrong. We even went to a therapist together that told him he needed to "Put her on a pedestal" meaning do something that made me feel important......he didnt ****ing do it.
My current therapist has asked that he come and give his thought on the relationship, he hasnt came. Hes making me ****ing crazy!

I tried telling my therapist today, "No, I get really upset and react impulsively and start texting him nonstop" "I get mad about xyz. He loves me, its me and how I react and I shouldnt be getting mad about this stuff, but I cant help it"
The therapist responded that I should get upset in these situations and a lot of women wouldnt put up with this and I need to respect and love myself and some other self esteem stuff.

Boyfriend is driving me nuts. Thinking of quitting.

Ok, for the millionth time, what the actual **** is wrong with someone putting their family ahead of you? Like, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. I'd actually be ****ing concerned if a partner of mine didn't value their family like that.

What the **** is wrong with you? the problem isn't code, it's the way you view reality and your priorities are all ****ing skewed. Sorry if I'm being harsh but god damn some of the stuff you write is hard to read.

Like, maybe he'd rather go to basketball games with his sister because she's more fun to go with. Do you ever think of that? Do you ever think like "hey, maybe I'm not that fun to be around, maybe the problem is me and not everyone else?" Or even let's say he's totally wrong and totally putting everyone ahead of you. Say this is reality. Why the **** do you still do this then? It's REDICULOUS. You are literally trying to force him into the person you want him to be, and that's ****ing wrong. No matter how you look at it. It's wrong to him, it's wrong to you, and it's especially wrong to your daughter. And no, you don't get to just throw her into counseling if she can't handle it. How about you avoid that ****ing possibility altogether?

You're finally starting to get it.

Banned,

Lol!

And before you say I don't know what I'm talking about, i've been in a relationship with someone who thinks like you. No matter WHAT I did, it was never enough. And god forbid if I wanted one night alone to myself, she'd turn it into this unholy crusade about how I don't really care about her, she's done x, y, and z for me, and i can't even spend ONE NIGHT at her place! never mind the fact that I spent the last 47 nights there, no, she'll only remember the one time I didn't and bring it up every single time she felt like I didnt REALLY love her.

It's the same **** with you. He has actually shown a lot of effort. More than a lot of men probably would in his spot. Could he do better? Sure, everyone can. But you turn the slightest rejection into this huge thing when I'm positive there's things you're leaving out or ignoring about the relationship that don't fit into your victim narrative.

MLY, you're posting in the wrong thread, you're just gonna get banned again