LOOOOOOOL at asking random OOT personalities to explain anything to your ex.
You are a ****ing wreck. If you would have listened to anyone, ever, you wouldn't be in this mess. Even thinking about asking an internet stranger to try to patch things up with your ex is insane. Get a grasp on reality!
Or keep OOT's entertainment interests in mind and just keep doing what you're doing.
I'm not asking anyone to patch anything up with him. I just want a group of his peers to explain to him that it's not my fault he wants to be a bachelor forever. I want his peers to explain to him how a guy that truly cared for someone should have acted in all the situations because he doesn't get it.
He doesnt need anything explained! Hes getting just what he wants.
He knows exactly what hes doing, and he keeps doing it because you enable him. Its obvious that nobody can get through to you though, so the cycle is just going to continue with somebody else when code3 finally gets tired of your nonsense.
Code 3 is not getting anything g else from me ever. And he doesn't get it. He thinks he acted perfectly with all the drama with his family and it's all my fault. He thinks everything is my fault and not taking responsibility for being a selfish jerk that used me.
If he admits he wants other stuff, you'll stop ****ing him and maybe stop letting him live in "your" (?) apartment.
You need to get away from him. Notice how clear headed you were when he was gone? Go back and read like, 5 pages ago.
You want everyone to chastise him for whatever you think he's doing wrong, but you won't take responsibility for your part in this. Every time you **** him, he's getting what he wants. Why would he want anything to change?
Nothing he says matters. The only thing that matters is that you two suck together and you need to separate. Holy balls, how hard is it to see that?
He may have loved you. He may "still love you". It doesn't matter. He treats you as ****tily as you'll let him and no one needs that. I'm not saying you're blameless if he treats you ****ty. I'm also not saying anyone deserves to be treated like ****, but if you keep yourself in this situation, you can only blame yourself.
Leave. Holy ****. Leave.
The only thing that matters is how you feel and what you need to do. Believe whatever the **** you want, but this isn't good for you and you need to get out of it. What consolation could possibly by gotten by hearing whatever it is you think you want to hear right now? It's just words. It doesn't change anything and it's not going to make anything better. All it's going to do is allow you to convince yourself that maybe things can get better. It's so clearly obvious it won't. I've had a BPD partner before. I know how you feel. Just get out. It's the only way at this point.
I am leaving. I already drove to east Texas to look for a place to live and I'm going to try to be moved in by Sat. I'm completely done with him. I just hope he Cries himself to sleep every night when he realizes what he had and threw away so he could forever act like a little boy.