Open Side Menu Go to the Top
Register
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Boss is Mind ****ing Me

07-09-2014 , 08:13 PM
I’ve decided to take the offer, and tell my boss I’m quitting tomorrow.
Y’all have any suggestions on parting words?
How should I react to a counter offer(I won't take one)?
He has already told me I can’t come back if I leave…..should I just make Friday my last day instead of giving the standard 2 week notice?
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 08:29 PM
Quote:
How should I react to a counter offer
Sounds like you're staying.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 08:30 PM
It's very obvious hewants to buy time until he replaces you , otherwise he would have at least tried to come closer to the offer they made you at the new job, get the new job as now that it has unfolded, he will own you/ make life worse once you turn the other job down and may fire you out of nowhere.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 08:51 PM


Just send him that pic on Friday by email
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 09:25 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
Iíve decided to take the offer, and tell my boss Iím quitting tomorrow.
Yíall have any suggestions on parting words?
How should I react to a counter offer(I won't take one)?
He has already told me I canít come back if I leaveÖ..should I just make Friday my last day instead of giving the standard 2 week notice?
Oh no, who cares.

Just be cordial. Even if he says all of that, I doubt he controls all the hiring and firing decisions long term. I'm assuming there are other opportunities than the current firm you work for and your future firm? While it might seem cool to be hostile, I see no reason to be. Tell them you are parting for better pay and a less hostile work environment. If you have a 1on1 with HR as an exit interview, be honest in how poor a manager you had but I wouldn't be up front with the manager.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 09:49 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
This could be a possibility---every time I walk into his office his hand goes straight to his crotch...EVERY TIME
Quote:
Originally Posted by capone0
Trolloooooooooo
Gotta be trolling right?

Then again men are such hormonal ogres that this might just something a segment of woman goes "meh" over.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 10:00 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
I’ve decided to take the offer, and tell my boss I’m quitting tomorrow.
Y’all have any suggestions on parting words?
How should I react to a counter offer(I won't take one)?
He has already told me I can’t come back if I leave…..should I just make Friday my last day instead of giving the standard 2 week notice?
I'm a firm believer in moving on when in a situation like yours, but there's nothing to gain by going negative on your way out. If there's an exit interview you could show up with some specific examples of where you thought you were treated unfairly but give your notice and put in your best effort for the two weeks. Despite what he says, maybe your boss ends up leaving that company and the maybe you could come back, but there's probably no chance if you don't give notice. Plus you just don't know who from the old company will find out and go somewhere else. You're better off taking the high ground and having a reputation as someone who left on professional terms. And even if they tell you to just not show up, there's a possibility you get paid for 2 weeks anyway.

If you're counter offered, be honest, tell them you've already made your decision and accepted the other position and it would be unprofessional to back out at this point.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 10:04 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lagtastic
Gotta be trolling right?

Then again men are such hormonal ogres that this might just something a segment of woman goes "meh" over.
Def not trolling.....this is Truth
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 10:14 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
Def not trolling.....this is Truth
Ok well I'm no prude but I think I'd go to HR immediately if someone is jacking themselves off when you walk into the room. That's not even borderline ****.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 10:29 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lagtastic
Ok well I'm no prude but I think I'd go to HR immediately if someone is jacking themselves off when you walk into the room. That's not even borderline ****.
lol No, not jerking himself....just putting his hand on his junk.

And, I could never go to HR. That is the fast track to being blacklisted.
Companies are scared of hiring women; they see them as a risk because of potential law suites.

The recruiter that introduced me to the new company literally ask them if they would be okay with working with a woman engineer. In our initial conversation he said, "I already ask them if they would be okay with working with a woman" as if this was standard protocol when presenting a female for a job.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 10:32 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by capone0

Just be cordial. Even if he says all of that, I doubt he controls all the hiring and firing decisions long term. I'm assuming there are other opportunities than the current firm you work for and your future firm? While it might seem cool to be hostile, I see no reason to be. Tell them you are parting for better pay and a less hostile work environment. If you have a 1on1 with HR as an exit interview, be honest in how poor a manager you had but I wouldn't be up front with the manager.
This.

Don't burn bridges or cause a scene. You never know what third party onlooker you might have to work with or for at a later date. If he wants to make a fool out of himself, there's nothing you can do but do not stoop.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 10:53 PM
Write a formal letter or email stating you intention and hand it to him. Explain what a pleasure it's been to work there etc etc.
Take the high road ..always
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 11:00 PM
Your boss is negging you.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 11:02 PM
Cry Me A River,
I was meaning to give you a shout out the other day for your beginner threads.
Learned a lot from them, and won a tourney a couple of weeks ago. (First tourney I've ever played)
About 156 ppl, Chopped 5 ways for $3k----I was chip leader when we chopped.
Thanks for the help!

Last edited by MeLoveYouLongTime; 07-09-2014 at 11:08 PM.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 11:34 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by BoDiddleyMacau
He's trying to control you. He didn't consider that you might leave because he thinks you're weak, but you called his bluff. Now he's trying to backtrack and still keep the power by putting the pressure of the decision on you.

Questions like "So what's your decision" give him the power. He's putting you on the spot making you second guess leaving. He doesn't want you to leave, but he doesn't want you think you're valuable either, because then he loses the power (over a woman no less).

If you do leave, he can tell himself (and others) "She didn't fit in here anyway, she couldn't handle the pressures I put on her to perform". He gets to keep the power. If you stay and he gives you nothing additional, he keeps the power. You can't win unless he caves to your demands. He's a horrible manager with an inferiority complex.

If you lined up the other job, stand your ground and negotiate. GL!
This is the best post ITT.

Your boss is most definitely trying to control you, and it seems likely that he does value your work, but wants to underpay you.

OP, serious question: are you good looking? Your looks may be playing a role here. Are you the only woman he's the boss of?
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 11:42 PM
Just walk away, job sounds toxic but you can't see it because you are brainwashed.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-09-2014 , 11:54 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Hardball47
This is the best post ITT.

Your boss is most definitely trying to control you, and it seems likely that he does value your work, but wants to underpay you.

OP, serious question: are you good looking? Your looks may be playing a role here. Are you the only woman he's the boss of?
Not to be an a hole but the fact that she is posting on 2+2 should give you a big hint about her looks. Working with competent chicks is usually better than hot chicks.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-10-2014 , 12:23 AM
36% raise. Obv snap-leave. Not sure why you would contemplate this at all.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-10-2014 , 12:25 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
This could be a possibility---every time I walk into his office his hand goes straight to his crotch...EVERY TIME
He prolly does this for all the engineers.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-10-2014 , 01:19 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by ninetynine99
You're a woman engineer working in a male-dominated industry. You'll get stimulated all right.

In fact, could be that your boss has been softening you up for some stimulation.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Hopey
He's been neg hitting her to make her sexually interested in him, ldo.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Banned4lyfe
That's just so you won't scream sexism when everyone else is earning more. It's also possible that he's a PUA and this is his way of negging you.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Hardball47
Your boss is negging you.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Hardball47

OP, serious question: are you good looking? Your looks may be playing a role here. Are you the only woman he's the boss of?
Quote:
Originally Posted by txdome
Not to be an a hole but the fact that she is posting on 2+2 should give you a big hint about her looks. Working with competent chicks is usually better than hot chicks.
Lol at this forum sometimes.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-10-2014 , 07:49 AM
So you manage the most complex matters as PE and your boss wants you to stay which implies that he is satisfied with your work and you get paid the minimum bonus compared to the other PEs who manage less complex matters - I don't get it??
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-10-2014 , 08:06 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Hardball47
This is the best post ITT.

Your boss is most definitely trying to control you, and it seems likely that he does value your work, but wants to underpay you.

OP, serious question: are you good looking? Your looks may be playing a role here. Are you the only woman he's the boss of?
I am the only woman he is the boss of. Can you explain how my looks are playing a role? I don't get it.

Quote:
Originally Posted by txdome
Not to be an a hole but the fact that she is posting on 2+2 should give you a big hint about her looks.
So what you are implying is that all 2+2 posters are fugly.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-10-2014 , 09:43 AM
Quote:
Originally Posted by MeLoveYouLongTime
So what you are implying is that all 2+2 posters are fugly.
And he confirmed it by checking a mirror...
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-10-2014 , 09:57 AM
I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that you will have similar issues in your new job. Something doesn't add up and my hunch is that you have poor communication skills.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote
07-10-2014 , 10:34 AM
Are you a proper engineer or is 'project engineer' a fancy title for project manager or something?

Stop making mistakes. And when you do make them and your boss points them out, don't respond by pointing out all your co-workers mistakes and how much bigger theirs are instead of taking responsibility for them and trying to improve. I'd give you poor reviews too if you did this.

I suspect you will continue to have problems with your boss no matter where you work if this is typical of your behavior.

Obviously, take the new job and strive to do better.
Boss is Mind ****ing Me Quote

      
m