Well the first controversial stance was that I didn't understand what someone was saying and wanted clarification

Not like "I can't understand feeling that way" but "I don't know what those words mean in that order"

MLYLT,

Are you and Code back together?

No

I do love him; he can try and get me back if he wants, but that will be a very steep mountain to climb.

If he doesn't want to....well, **** him because I will never again in my life be with a person that doesn't want me. I want someone who values me, and that's what I'm going to get.

I'm now 100% convinced this trainwreck is just a huge forum troll and not real

Mlylt,

How many online dating dudes have you banged so far?

Well code 3 seems to be putting in some effort, so only 2 for now.

Mlylt,


I was joking with the online banging thing. But serious sigh at you once again being unable to let go.

I mean, good for you, the next go-round will turn out totally different!

What happened to the other girls he was screwing?

Wait code 3 is a black dude? I mean not that there's anything wrong with that but everything makes a lot more sense now.

Wait, what? What would make more sense now you know the colour of his skin?

MLYLT,

Sigh.

.

TLDR warning. No cliffs.

I don't even know how you could have jumped to this interpretation of my post. Amongst other things: in case you aren't up to speed, the recent history of the thread is absolutely not about you possibly getting a job.

A short sampling of things that are depressing in the thread:

1. A poster (you) who is educated, works in a technical job, and has been looking for a new job either passively or actively for 2 years (yes, that's when the first post in this thread was, 2 years ago tomorrow, happy threadiversary!), frequently with the assistance of the forum, is apparently so out of touch with the normal expectations of the interview process that she didn't consider sending follow-up thank you emails after an interview.

2. A poster (you) with those same characteristics produced the initial draft of a super-late thank you letter that you posted.

3. Basically everything PocketChads posts.

4. Basically everything cs3 posts.

I know I said I was out for a bit, but here's some thoughts:

Everything you're dealing with right now is both difficult and stressful. Ending relationships is difficult and stressful. Finding a job is difficult and stressful. Raising a child is difficult and stressful. Having any form of mental health disorder is difficult and stressful. Doing several difficult and stressful things at once is -- shockingly -- difficult and stressful.

You seem strangely averse to engaging in tactics to make things easier for yourself.

Want a new job? First things you should do: figure out what the best practices are for things like: preparing a resume, getting your resume to the top of the pile, phone interviews, in office interviews, post interview follow up. These things are easy, and to be frank, table stakes for anyone who wants convey that they are a serious person looking for a serious job.

Want to be done with the guy who doesn't love you, cheats on you, and possibly hooks up with his sister? This one's easy. First things you should do: just actually be done with him. Don't cohabit with him. Don't pine over him. Don't threaten him on an online message board. Don't talk to him. Part of the reason it's difficult for people in this thread to take seriously the concept that you have actually wanted to be done with him is very parallel to why it's possible that people who have either seen your resume or interviewed you don't take seriously that you actually are a professional who wants a job: you are not sending the traditional signals of people who want to do those things.

Want to lose weight? You actually seem to have done acquired small amount of table-stakes level understanding of this process. Consume fewer calories than you expend. Just start doing that, and you'll lose weight.

I'm being verbose and pedantic because it is sadly somewhat clear that without someone spelling out straightforward processes to you, you are unlikely to be able to fill in the steps of those processes.

Here's a personal story to parallel your own:

I followed a non-traditional career path (including professional poker player) and a few years ago was exposed to an opportunity to make a huge career change. New industry, new earning potential, new salary structure, a mix of travel and remote work, etc. Lots of stuff I'd never dealt with. I leaned on a poster I had met here (El Oh El himself) for advice with these things, and wound up dramatically changing my life (for the better, I think). Similarly, he helped me with later professional issues, including when it was time that I was ready to move on from that job. Finally, he was gracious enough to be the world's worst credit card roulette player, and so bought me a handful of tasty, and expensive, meals.

I'm sharing that story as an example that this forum is (when you disregard people like PocketChads) an incredibly valuable resource that you can leverage to get you through difficult situations that you don't otherwise know how to deal with. Much like its original intent to help people learn how to play poker hands that they didn't know how to play.

You've taken a good first step of attempting to crowdsource knowledge on getting a job, losing a garbage boyfriend, and losing weight. Find people who know more than you, and get their advice. Step 2 is to actually follow their advice. All of this also combines well with an incredibly difficult skill to learn: knowing what you don't know. But that's probably for a whole other post. Good luck.

Missed opportunity for the rare colon-colon-semi-colon sequence.

Rdh,

Some unfortunate missed hyphen opportunities too.

RDH, ElD,

I'm just a guy banging keys over here, but I'm pretty sure no one uses semicolons on the internet.

Thank you Citinal. I appreciate you taking time to write that post. I will take your advice to heart, and thank you again for giving it.

I've used semicolons numerous times on the internet; they are the GOAT.

Gus,

I agree about semicolons; they are elite punctuation.

That is some elite posting/key banging.

PocketChads is OK in my book.

PocketSads

Good news if you're a female engineer looking for a job http://money.cnn.com/2016/07/07/pf/w...ees/index.html