So why should I go through all the trouble and he just gets to keep his life exactly the same except with me gone?

Is it possible for your child to live primarily with her father while you are going through this tough time? What is his situation? Is it more stable?

All of this must be really hard for her.

She doesn't know anything is going on. Code3 and I only argue via txt or when she isn't here. She's staying with her dad a bit for the summer, but I will primarily have her starting in sept.

Can we just talk more about dumb bosses and finding a job?

Nobody saw this coming

Unfortunately your kid might be more perceptive than you would like to think . I agree you shouldn't have to be the one to move out though and moving away from family to another state sounds like a bad idea. Probably better off with a ****tier lower paid job while looking for a better one then. Stability in life more important than money imo, although they quite often go hand in hand.

You're obsessed with him. It's literally debilitating.

I just had a phone interview. The guy called me at 7:15am.
I have an in person next week. It's for a project engineer designing pump packages....great fit for me.
The only thing I did was respond via email to the person that had the job listed on Linked In.

I told them a salary requirement of $85k, and they were good with it......everyone I've interviewed with outside of O&G in this area thinks that's too high.

You have a seriously high victim complex. Stop blaming everyone else for your problems.

Wtf, how is this in anyway being a victim or blaming someone. I'm explaining why he reacts the way he does because he has a lack of understanding like your lack of understanding what I wrote.

So he only reacts the way he does because "he doesn't understand?" He doesn't react the way he does because he's tired of your relationship? He doesn't react the way he does because he's tired of the drama that comes with having a bi-polar suicidal girlfriend and doesn't want it any more? He doesn't react the way he does because he wants to be single and live alone?

Literally 0% of any of these or any number of other possible explanations being true? He "just doesn't understand", and that's it?

To be clear:

- I think it's totally reasonable for you to not move out if you are both on the lease, paying rent, etc.

- I think it's totally unreasonable for you to believe things like "he only x because he y" and believe that either you have a better understanding of what he wants, or what he understands, than he does himself.

Not to be overly crass but the guy has repeatedly said he doesn't want you around, and when asked for something he likes about you or to identify something you're good at, he said "blowjobs." It seems like you like him quite a lot, but he doesn't particularly care if you're there or not. That sucks, but it doesn't give you a right to veto his preferences.

Borderline personality disorder is a specific diagnosis. Has strong co-morbidity with bipolar. Research it. You display some of the classic symptoms.

Also - you're not going to exercise your way out of being bipolar. You can do a lot to materially mitigate the effects, but it's not something that can ever really be cured. Please attend some support groups.

If you objectively read through your posts you would realize that most of the time you are blaming others or other outside agencies for the situations you get yourself into.

You probably don't realize that you constantly do that. Most people who have read through this thread have picked up on it though.

MLYLT, the fact that you have the skill set to command a starting salary of $85k is proof of your dedication and discipline. You should congratulate yourself for this. The status of your current relationship is such a negative drain on you, that it is surprising that you haven't been able to walk away from it. For whatever reason. And no matter who is at fault.

It's so obvious, that it creates a level of impatience in people. Like, WTF? It's so simple. Get the hell out of there. You need to stop wasting energy on that situation, and start working on yourself. Everyone will be much happier, including those of us who have been following this train wreck.

As chop said, "borderline" is the actual name of a type of personality disorder. Here are the diagnostic criteria: http://borderlinebravery.com/diagnosticcriteria

In particular, you seem to exhibit some of these:

• Compromised ability to recognize the feelings and needs of others associated with interpersonal hypersensitivity (i.e., prone to feel slighted or insulted); perceptions of others selectively biased toward negative attributes or vulnerabilities.
  
  
• Intense, unstable, and conflicted close relationships, marked by mistrust, neediness, and anxious preoccupation with real or imagined abandonment; close relationships often viewed in extremes of idealization and devaluation and alternating between over involvement and withdrawal.
  
  
• Emotional lability: Unstable emotional experiences and frequent mood changes; emotions that are easily aroused, intense, and/or out of proportion to events and circumstances.
  
  
• Separation insecurity: Fears of rejection by - and/or separation from - significant others, associated with fears of excessive dependency and complete loss of autonomy.
  
  
• Hostility: Persistent or frequent angry feelings; anger or irritability in response to minor slights and insults.

Plus other symptoms that overlap with bi-polar disorder such as:

Anxiousness: Intense feelings of nervousness, tenseness, or panic, often in reaction to interpersonal stresses; worry about the negative effects of past unpleasant experiences and future negative possibilities; feeling fearful, apprehensive, or threatened by uncertainty; fears of falling apart or losing control.

Depressivity: Frequent feelings of being down, miserable, and/or hopeless; difficulty recovering from such moods; pessimism about the future; pervasive shame; feeling of inferior self-worth; thoughts of suicide and suicidal behavior.

I'm not just playing the guess the diagnosis game for fun, now am I saying you do have borderline personality disorder; but if you do and aren't receiving any treatment for it along with your treatment for bipolar disorder, it is going to be hard to ever maintain stable relationships or manage the intense emotions associated with BPD. Treatment for BPD focuses on ways to manage conflict in relationships, tolerate distress and manage emotions more effectively.

I looked into to this BPD, and yeah it seems like I have it.

Don't put it on your resume

If you are seeing a therapist, which I assume you are since I believe you said you are getting help for your other issues, you should probably talk to that person rather than self diagnose or diagnose on internet message board. That said, I'm not going to disagree with the diagnosis.

This.

I will never understand why some people feel the need to post every single detail of their (usually drama filled) personal lives on the internet. Is there a medical term for people who do that?

pathological narcissism?

Why did you ask for so little? You need to network with people at these companies you've worked for. You'll end up with more opportunities and a better understanding of what's going on in the industry.

Are you in the industry? Why do you think that is so little?

Attention whore