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Old 02-14-2021, 11:58 PM   #1
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Being part of the swingers community

Just wondering if anyone here has been involved in it. I was introduced to it about a year and a half back by a couple I had befriended. They prefer to it as 'the lifestyle'. It seems that is a more low key way of talking about their community.

My only involvement in the lifestyle so far has been joining a community website and also meeting some of their lifestyle friends at the local nude beach. The nude beach here in Vancouver is sort of a hangout for that community. I was even told that there are areas near the beach where people venture off too for outdoor sex.

I haven't attended any of the sex parties yet, as those are mainly for couples and single women seem to be more welcome. Single guys seem to be a dime a dozen in the community and seem to be less valued. I'm a single guy myself, so it seems like I'd need to start attending events with another lady who is open to this.

I check out the community website quite a bit and there are some interesting pictures. People are not shy on there. There are some cool sex/orgy pictures that are quite graphic. Guys are not shy about posting pics of themselves..especially if they are packing that heavy heavy heat.

I hope to get more involved with it in the future. I've never been in a threesome of any kind. I think an orgy would be fun, but even a gangbang, or swapping partners in the same room. I'm totally straight though, so I would continue to keep things that way. I'm pretty open minded, but the whole torture/bondage scene doesn't seemt to be something I'd be into. Also, it does seem the people in this community are not necessarily younger adults. More 30+, going into 50s. There are some people in their 20s though.
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Old 02-15-2021, 12:01 AM   #2
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I really got stop eating while reading this site
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Old 02-15-2021, 02:34 AM   #3
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I know it’s OOT but why put this on a poker site? Also couples being part of a swingers lifestyle is weird. Single guys in it is sad and creepy.
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Old 02-15-2021, 02:58 AM   #4
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Op is a swinger stalker
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Old 02-15-2021, 09:20 AM   #5
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Old 02-15-2021, 11:34 AM   #6
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Old 02-15-2021, 11:35 AM   #7
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For some reason, I love that the swinger-curious OP has Razor Ramon as his avatar.
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Old 02-15-2021, 11:52 AM   #8
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Re: Being part of the swingers community

I can't say that I know anything about the swingers community, but if you're a single male can you really be a swinger? Aren't you really just Fred Garvin?
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Old 02-15-2021, 01:07 PM   #9
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How heavy was the heat though?
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Old 02-15-2021, 02:13 PM   #10
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A good friend of mine was involved with the Seattle scene years ago when he was dating a girl that introduced him. He was game but after they broke up he fell out of the scene and his new gf is not so excited about the idea and it doesn't bother him either way. He was along for the ride.

During the events he would describe going to someone's giant house and having a large dinner then adjourning to the bedrooms where each room had a theme whether it be as simple as people observing other couples having sex to all out free for all rooms.

Single men need not apply, that's for sure.
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Old 02-15-2021, 03:38 PM   #11
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A good friend of mine was involved with the Seattle scene years ago when he was dating a girl that introduced him. He was game but after they broke up he fell out of the scene and his new gf is not so excited about the idea and it doesn't bother him either way. He was along for the ride.

During the events he would describe going to someone's giant house and having a large dinner then adjourning to the bedrooms where each room had a theme whether it be as simple as people observing other couples having sex to all out free for all rooms.

Single men need not apply, that's for sure.
Ya that is generally the nature of the big parties. Here I've heard of those mansion parties, but usually there is this one night club where events were held about once per month.

I'm not surprised that alot of the younger guys here aren't aware of or shocked by the idea of the community, but I'm pretty sure every major North American city has some sort of lifestyle scene going on there.

The idea of the community does seem fun and exciting, but ya I would definitely need to connect with an open minded lady before exploring the lifestyle further.
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Old 02-15-2021, 03:42 PM   #12
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Re: Being part of the swingers community

Being a single guy and trying to go to swingers parties is creepy.

I'm not in the "lifestyle" but have been to some house parties, swingers clubs, and events.

The house parties were meh and just switching couples, not my thing.

The clubs are fun and there are a few options: you can have sex with your partner around others, watch couples, join an orgy, or watch the hired people put on a live porn show. There is usually a main area+dance floor and then different rooms designated for the other activities. It's interesting just to walk around and observe.

The events are just parties hosted at large venues with people wearing sexy outfits/naked with body paint and different things like glory holes set up...pretty fun.
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Old 02-15-2021, 04:17 PM   #13
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- Be a "normal" guy. Don't be creepy
- Be social and talk to the others at parties
- Don't talk about sex when you're socializing
- Swinger parties are cliques so it may take a few parties before people warm up to you
- Always ask for permission before touching and engaging

Pretty easy to follow rules and you will get in the circle!
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Old 02-15-2021, 04:26 PM   #14
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- Be a "normal" guy. Don't be creepy
- Be social and talk to the others at parties
- Don't talk about sex when you're socializing
- Swinger parties are cliques so it may take a few parties before people warm up to you
- Always ask for permission before touching and engaging

Pretty easy to follow rules and you will get in the circle!
Great advice man! I definitely want to have more of a connection with others in the community before attending a big sex party. It does seem to be a cliquey community where alot of the regulars get to know each other, so I'd want to have some connections so I'm not a guy standing around at a party with no one to talk to.
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Old 02-15-2021, 04:48 PM   #15
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Re: Being part of the swingers community

You can hang out at std clinics and get to know a bunch there. Also get a girlfriend
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Old 02-15-2021, 04:54 PM   #16
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I for one am happy to see an interesting topic on 2+2, absolutely no knowledge about the "lifestyle" but nice to see some variation here on the forums
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Old 02-15-2021, 05:00 PM   #17
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During the events he would describe going to someone's giant house and having a large dinner then adjourning to the bedrooms where each room had a theme whether it be as simple as people observing other couples having sex to all out free for all rooms.

Single men need not apply, that's for sure.
I had a friend who had a gf who was into it, and invited me and my gf-at-the-time to a few house parties. This is a pretty good description of it, but also adding the nude beach rule... the people most actively involved are the people you definitely don't want to see actively involved. Lots of out-of-shape 50 year olds.
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Old 02-15-2021, 07:24 PM   #18
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In my early 20s a group of friends and I organized techno parties at a couple different locations. One that we frequently used on Saturday nights was used for swinger parties on Fridays. So not only did I know how the sofas and stuff looked when the light was on but also saw some of the stuff happening when we moved equipment in there on Friday night. Everyone looked relatively old and I never saw a single person I would have wanted to have sex with.

Other than that, my only experiences in that area are coked-up after hours with male friends and hookers. But I doubt that qualifies as swinger lifestyle and also was 10+ years ago.
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Old 02-15-2021, 09:55 PM   #19
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OP,
Single males are always welcome at swinger events, if you have a big enough dick.
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Old 02-15-2021, 10:16 PM   #20
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I'm not surprised to hear about some of the 50+ demographic in the community. It seems like the people who get into this aren't always young couples...although I have seen some on the community website. I get the idea that couples get into this later on into their relationship to give it some excitement and variety.

I recently saw saw clips of this show Neighbors With Benefits on YouTube, so that has given me some insight on what the community is like. I log onto the website and check out the photos during the pandemic and I have even been messaging with a lady who posted a pic recently. But I can't imagine I can get too active until the pandemic is over. I don't imagine much improvement until late this year or into 2022.
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Old 02-16-2021, 04:49 PM   #21
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Louis Theroux did an episode of Weird Weekends that focused on the lifestyle. This video is poor quality, but it's pretty funny.

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Old 02-17-2021, 08:14 PM   #22
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I don't even share my ****ing French fries
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Old 02-17-2021, 08:33 PM   #23
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I'm totally straight though, so I would continue to keep things that way.
Come on bro, everyone is at least a little bit gay.
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Old 02-17-2021, 09:47 PM   #24
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Nothing wrong with some good 'ol male conviviality.
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