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Originally Posted by obsidian
I'm certainly no relationship expert, but how is this only coming up after you've been married?
Obviously because the deal wasn't sealed...now she has her contract and is enforcing it. I believe it is reasonable for her to do so. Conversely, she needs to realize that her husband needs to get laid regularly and accommodate him.
OP, I'd wager that many of the posters giving you pro-porn advice are not married. There is a big difference, and I mean a world of difference (as you are no doubt discovering) between a girlfriend (even a long term one) and a wife. A large balance of power shift occurs when you get married. Men who held all the cards in the relationship before sometimes discover that their compliant kitten has grown post-nuptial fangs provided courtesy of a family court system that will happily relieve you of your possessions and children at her whim. Which is why a man who gets married today without a religious compulsion to do so needs his head examined, but I digress.
Throughout the ages, the social contract in society was that the man provided a roof and sustenance for his wife, and in return she bore him children, cooked his meals, and provided regular access to sex. Since TV didn't exist until about 60 years ago and many people were illiterate, sex was on the nightly menu a lot.
Of course today society is different. Most women, including yours are working outside the home while still trying to run a household, and are just too tired for sex. Fair enough. But that pesky male sex drive is still there.
Someone up thread jokingly listed 1-800-DR-LAURA. I'm not a regular listener of hers, but did hear her answer a question from a woman about this very subject. After finding out the woman only had sex with her husband 2 or 3 times a month, she told her she either needs to screw her husband regularly or accept that he is going to look at porn. I think it's as simple as that.
As someone whose been married over 10 years, I strongly advise against lying to your wife about this. You will get caught again, and it will be a huge mess. Just tell her you require more sex. Be honest about it, and tell her it's OK if she's not 100% into it every time. Why do you think they make KY? Good luck.