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The second paragraph is strong evidence that your first paragraph is true.

Women who really don't like sex a lot are not changing their minds because you say the right things or set the mood. If you are in a relationship you have choices — leave her, cheat on her, or deal with less sex — but talking her into wanting more is not a long-term option.

Dude.

Well if you don't look at porn you'll just be jerking it to random women you see during the day( potential competition). Seems like that would be worse to a woman than random porn stars you'll never have sex with, plus you have to imagine the scenario where you **** them in the first place so its like you're cheating in your mind instead of watching others ****. Doubt an anti porn woman would understand this if you explained it to her though

Up next.... $30 car bj's from streetwalkers. If you can't find one of those search search Craigslist for "BNG" or "blow n go." Might cost you $50 or $60, but your wife makes enough as a lawyer for you to play the hookers twice a month.

Want me to find somebody to hold on to your balls for a while, you obviously aren't using them.

dude, there is no way i dont beat off to porn at least 1x per day if i can find time. this stealthed googlechrome is $$$... i'm going to try just reducing my time on porn... trying to be realistic here

women who are antiporn are so f*cking ******ed. no offense OP, but seriously.

I can understand the wife being upset with the porn, but if she wants to be the sole provider of your sexual gratification then she needs to make yourself available to your needs.

The part that seems the worst about this is that you had to hide this from your wife, and that you have to apologize for it. It seems like...your wife wears the pants. Then again I'm not married. What the hell do I know.

OP, out of curiosity, how long have you been married?

You made a promise, and if she catches you again you'll be in the same spot only much worse off. You're better off talking to her again and being honest this time. And she will catch you again, somehow.

For a guy with a sex drive that needs porn once a day, you put yourself in a terrible spot.

together 8 years married in august so coming up on one year

i wouldn't say i NEED it once a day. it'll probably end up being more like once ever 3 days, in reality.

seems a lot of you are pulling for me (no pun intended) to land some kind of "porn's ok let's watch it together" agreement, but it ain't happening. the good thing about porn is, especially on a site like pornhub, you don't need to bookmark anything. just gotta be supercareful I don't leave out any damning evidence.

yeah, chances are I'll get caught again, somehow.

I guess you're right. I guess I just don't understand why someone would make the choice to promise to spend the rest of their life with someone they are sexually incompatible with.

I think people don't think of it that way, or think of it at all — men are almost universally excellent at self-delusion, in this case the delusion being that it's temporary and/or that she will change.

However, I suspect that in more cases the relationship is formed at a time when one person (usually the woman, but not always) is more into it for a temporary reason, in particular the newness of the relationship, or in some cases doing it consciously in an effort to get the s.o. to commit. Once the ring's on the finger the blowjobs, and sometimes everything else, stop and she goes back to what she considers normal and healthy. If she's lucky, his response, after enduring frustration for a while, is porn. But in many cases it's hookers or affairs, or of course divorce.

preposterous!

but dude, help around the house. it is lame if you don't and your wife is building up a hate bank with you because of it.

as for the porn -- she has to reaiize that it is normal for men with internet acce3ss to surf porn...it's like breathing or drinking water.

As a somewhat related story (but not completely related) - last night - flipping through the channels - I happened to see that MTV show real life - this one was "I'm addicted to porn" (not implying that you are OP - maybe you are - maybe you aren't - I don't have a clue).

I thought it was really interesting - one of the profiles was especially sad - guy was married - with 4 kids - and his wife separated from him because of his porn addiction.

Even when faced with the situation that "give up the porn - and you can come back" - the guy still couldn't do it - in spite of the fact that he said he loved his wife/kids and wanted to move back with them. He had been trying for months - and just couldn't resist it.

Wife was understandably upset about the whole thing (now raising 4 kids by herself on top of it) - and she consistently made the point - you have to choose - your porn or your family - and the fact that he couldn't choose meant he was going to be losing them all.

OP - if you analyze your situation at it's most basic level - what is more important to you? Your wife - or having the freedom to watch porn and masturbate whenever you want....because it seems at the most basic level - you're choosing wacking off....and I have a hard time that any rational person would choose that (unless they've got a severe issue)

Yeah, once you promise to give up the porn, you have to.

Watching people **** when your wife doesn't like it is a minor bad. It's "I wish you wouldn't do that". Doing something after you promised her you wouldn't is a really bad idea. WHEN she catches you, it's going to be a very big deal, and you will be 100% the guilty party. At least with the porn thing, there was some "but you're being silly".

Don't make a promise to your wife you don't intend to keep. It will not turn out well.

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The main isssue here is not whether watching porn is bad or not. It's the fact that you're doing something in secrecy from someone you love. It's lying.

This sounded interesting, so I looked up "MTV True Life" online and started browsing the episodes. Just glancing at the list of recent shows, it really seems like they're running out of ideas. "True Life: I'm a sports fanatic"? Come on.

start having a maid cum to the house to service you. its like real life reality porn

You're screwed now. If she catches you again you "lied to her" or you're "addicted" to porn. Obviously you don't have the intention of telling her you won't watch porn and then do it anyways. But you seriously expect to never watch porn again in your life?

i'm going to fap to non-porn. win?

I think that would be a logical next question to her.

"I understand why my watching pornography bothers you - I'm sure that was an awkward conversation for both of us - and I hate to make it more awkward - but what is your position on masturbation in general....because our marriage is obviously important to me - and I want to be the type of husband that you want me to be - so I'd like to talk about what your expectations are with regard to my sexual needs and desires"

tell your wife to open her eyes or move every now and then during sex

Also - OP - just wanted to throw this out there.

Your wife either checked your internet history on accident or on purpose - ie - she was wondering what you were up to.

She was apparently hurt pretty badly over it.

You've promised to stop that behavior

You've discovered how to hide your browsing history - thinking that will keep you safe.

Now - will your wife trust you going forward? kind of doubtful in my opinion

So - will she be satisfied with checking internet history (which will theoretically be clean from now on) - or will she decide she wants to look a little bit deeper - something like installing a key logger - or computer tracking type software - which will NOT be covered by the cntrl/alt/P or whatever?

My main advice is - consider what you're risking if you choose not to keep your promise