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Originally Posted by Henry17
I think you must have left out some words or worded this incorrectly. Show me a man pretty much makes this a tautology since I figure the number of women beautiful or not and taken or not who have not actually had at least one man pursue them is a very small number.
The idea that we are at the mercy of biology is just a cop-out. If your agency doesn't make biological urges meaningless then that is a pretty sad situation.
The second claim is even more comical. The reason guys seek other sexual partners is boredom because of sexual incompatibility. Here it is guys getting what they reap by fostering a mentality of judging women who embrace their sexuality sluts and not "marriage material" and then wondering why their sex lives is not exciting. Find a girl who is comfortable with her sexuality and who has similar sexual tastes as yourself and you'll have no issues with monogamy.
You misunderstand me twice. Firstly, the point about a taken woman is: if she is the wife her own husband is tired of ****ing her. If she is the gf then her own bf is tired of ****ing her...
Secondly, I have made 0, zero, none, assertions to label women with regards to their sexual promiscuity. I'm completely fine with having an open relationship and believe it or not there exist women with whom this is also the case.
My quarrel is not with the fairer sex, it's with the institution of marriage which is an outdated concept that most modern men willingly accept without giving serious thought to it. I'm not going to throw detailed religion and politics into this discussion but the reasons are pretty obvious.
Bottom line, intelligence, thought, trial and error, and FFS communication are essential to one's beliefs on positive relationships. If you don't know who you are first and find happiness in that individual, how can you ever expect to find it with someone else? This is what I see OP's problem to be. It's his own ambivalence on his feelings as a man. His confidence in himself.
And please to be explaining to me how natural selection is a cop out? I mean, we're here having this conversation aren't we?