it depends on where you do it.

i don't know if i've been as tilted by a thread in a while.

I wasn't trying to be a nit - I was trying to understand the two statements -

One being - I watch porn every day
Second being - I don't watch a lot of porn

Definitely wasn't trying to call - or calling you a liar.

sorry loss tee, just getting it from both sides here. seems like 45% of it is "you *******", another 45% is "you pussy", and 10% actually is trying to improve the situation

And you're ignoring 100% of that 10%, hence why 90% are calling you a bitch.

No matter what advice you get - and what the source is -

MOST of the time - you cannot go wrong by trying to make your wife happy. Good marriages require work - and sacrifice.

I agree you've been getting beat up - kudos to you for sticking with the thread

by not watching porn anymore, thats ignoring them? the wife and i are not going to "come to an agreement" on watching porn, or do it together. not happening.

1. gonna try to make her happier by being a better husband
2. not gonna watch porn anymore

so what am i ignoring, exactly?

do i have to stop beating off as well to nonporn?

I don't know, ask your wife.

dude she will be 100x more upset if she catches you beating off to some swimsuit picture than if she caught you playing poker with some porn playing in the background.

stop ignoring the people telling you that this is an opportunity to educate your wife about your sex drive/tastes it will make both of your lives so much better arghgnkafdgaghn

Did I miss something here? Is this really just about fapping and porn? Is that why your wife was looking in the browser history in the first place?

I get the idea something else is going on in this marriage. I mean besides the fact that OP is married to a lawyer, ldo.

There is a fundamental lack of trust underlying this issue that tells me that this marriage is doomed. Sorry, OP.

dude, we did talk about it. we have different natural, biological sex drives. i like it waaaay more than she does. nothing we can do together or otherwise will change that, despite the opinion of many in here that it is all mental or emotional.

so i guess i'll just beat off and stare at the wall then. is that kosher?

Do you really think you can go back to using swimsuit pictures after being accustomed to internet porn? I really don't think you're being honest with yourself about this situation, and you're admittedly not being honest with your wife about it.

My girlfriend has found out that I still masturbate even though we are together. She does not like this.. she says she has to be not providing me something for me to go and seek self pleasure. I told her that it has nothing to do with anything she does or doesn't do, that it is a SELF pleasure thing that I can just do by MYSELF and enjoy MYSELF. She said she still doesn't agree with it, and I said you don't have to agree with it.. you don't have to like it, but that doesn't mean I won't keep doing it.

She didn't like that much but meh, I would never tell her what she can and can't do.. and she sure as hell won't be able to tell me. If she was my wife, it would be the same situation.. and if it became too big a problem, I would divorce her for being a control freak and insecure.

i honestly think i can beat off to a picture of some chick in a bikini

I'd be willing to bet that for the sake of argument, bikini pictures of 19-year-old girls is equal to (and actually probably much worse) than internet porn. You are not winning the masturbation battle on a technicality.

in the history of mankind, i wonder how many times that has been spoken

You must be under 40?

This. Or the SL Facebook thread which he mentioned earlier. I would think that most women would say that the closer the material is to real life opportunities the worse the offense is.

Just make sure it's your wife's niece or something IMO.

How about a counselor? There is a clear communication problem that has manifested into a trust problem. Pay $100/hr and learn how to communicate.

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Probably every single man she's ever spoken to about the subject has lied to her giving her an extremely warped perspective of what men are like.

She sounds like an up tight hag, and I think any guy that has ever even been on a date with her would understand pretty quickly that discussing anything even slightly taboo is off limits with her (and if they didnt, they were probably kicked to the curb pretty fast).


It's hard to say how the balance of power is in your relationship and how unreasonable her request is. Maybe she married far beneath her means so that she would have leverage in coercing her spouse into complying with all of her neurotic requests. I know a couple who basically fits that description. If you've always been so spineless, maybe that's what drew her to you.

you're not a bad husband b/c you like porn; she's the unreasonable one here

a lot of wives don't have a problem with porn and/or actually enjoy integrating in into the sex life

your wife is uptight and unreasonable in this regard, and it's up to you if her other redeeming qualities are strong enough to offset this emotional hangup of hers

i'm not advising you to hand her an ultimatum btw, but you should realize she's the one with the problem here, not you.

ppl who cave to unreasonable wives tilt the hell out of me, my best friend is getting soulcrushed by his terribad wife and it just kills me to watch it

Stop watching porn already.
If not, you're gonna get hairy palm ldo!

It's always freaked me out when my husband's friends need "permission" to do something? Really? Are you raising a child or are you married to an adult?

It's happening to all my friends.

Also, OP wears the vag in the family ldo. This thread reads like we're talking about someone from my parent's generation. Hell, even most of my friends parents had porn stashed away.