I'm sure the denial is as much to herself as it is to other people.

I admire you for sticking with her. Before I ask my questions I want to thank you for the most interesting thread on 2+2 (imo).

- Tell a little bit about her social life. How does her friends feel about her condition? Isn't it weird as hell if she is with her friends and suddenly Little Michelle comes forth and she wants to go the playground/draw pictures etc?
- Very interested in hearing about you confronting her parents about her abuse, one time please (the more detailed the better).

gl to you both

5stars

ask me what it's like dating a chick with multiple personalities

this can rephrased as "ask me what it's like dating a chick"

I was linked to this and have been totally absorbed into over your story the last few days .

I think you are the one thing that will get her through this and you are doing a great job , keeping your head straight along the way . You chose the point when you opted for all in and not a fold . No pressure , right ? lol .

No questions from me just best wishes to you both for the future . She deserves something good in life .

Epic thread for my 1st post .

Unreal thread. Best wishes in future!

+1 to people that assumed she was a redhead before pictures.

There's some feeling there like she owes them something (ie being around them some of the time) because they're her parents, but she also realizes that some of the things they've done could probably qualify them as giant pieces of **** too. The brother vaguely found out about it much later, and thinks it's BS how it was handled. I believe the abuse was limited to the uncle, but I'm scared to know how many others he abused.

Her father went in with her to see her psychiatrist once. The first thing out of his mouth, without it being brought up by either Michelle or the doctor, was "I don't think she's possessed." Later he exited the room, and the doctor made a sarcastic comment about his statement. Other than this, I don't think they have.

At one point she couldn't/wouldn't stand up for herself almost at all. In the past idk 3-5 months she's gotten much better at it. I talked about similar in my previous post, but I think she's finally starting to be able to harness (for lack of a better word) feelings like confidence and self-worth. Previously only Rebecca would do it.

She wants to become a therapist or counselor. Good questions, thanks.

Thanks.

I agree.

I've only talked about all of this with any kind of depth to maybe 2-3 people before. I don't know about cathartic, per se, but it's definitely had an impact on me as far as realizing how skewed my perspective of everyday life has become from what's "normal". Sometimes you get in so deep you forget which way is up.

I'm glad for the support I've gotten in this thread. I don't get too much support IRL outside of something like "lol gl" because most people just have the attitude that it's my problem.

I think she would have hurt herself pretty severely.

That's a good question, and I'm not really sure. Most of the time when she comes out now it's after Michelle's been trying to deal with things like what I mentioned in my previous post, and so when she shows up she's kind of pissed but is usually just as concerned that she didn't stop herself from changing to feel that anger/frustration. She's much more in control these days when she's in that state, so I'd be inclined to think it would take a lot to get her to do something too crazy.

In the first 3 months after the first time Little Michelle popped up, I'd say it was about 2/5 to 1/2 of the time I was with 'normal' Michelle, and it's gradually gotten to be a higher % of the time. In the past 3 months, it's probably been closer to 85%.

On a related subject, the frequency of her seizures has also changed. At first I was keeping a journal of every one that happened, but there would be like 7-8 a day sometimes and I would miss them. I eventually got frustrated and stopped trying to keep up with them individually. It was at least 4-5 months after her first seizure before she had a full day without one. Last summer I told her that if she went a week without having one that we'd get engaged, and I the most she made it to was like 5 days, and that only happened once. The individual severity has ramped down a bit on average after working so long on dealing with anxiety and stress in real time, but she still has them every other day or so. I don't think she's went a week without having one yet, but I could be wrong.

Maybe I should clarify on something. It's not the multiple personalities that seems to be the problem, it's the seizures. When prospective employers hear that she can eat the floor at any moment over random stuff, they shy away like omfg. And it's super frustrating. I talked about how her job at the time screwed her over in the same way, and she was just working in a call center.

FFS read the thread.

This has been addressed too.

Yeah man.

They all have.

Yeah it was real hot fishing out a broken piece of fingernail out of my back in the car on the way to the hospital. :P Thanks though.



Thanks. I doubt you could tell in text.

Thanks.

Not really. She's done things like that with her amnesia spells though.

I saw that movie (long before I met Michelle) and it is amazing. I 100% recommend it to anyone who loves good movies.

Thanks.

Thanks. I probably will at some point.

I answered your question about Matilda sort of in my last post (which was made after you posted but before I posted this one). As far as day to day life goes, it's probably surprisingly boring and normal-ish considering what's been talked about in this thread. We just have to pay a little more attention to certain kinds of things (like her emotional state) and be prepared to handle the abnormal parts the best we can.

Note to self, through post 424.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-AYAv0IoWI

at least youre getting pussy man

Sounds like she needs a more independent job, working from home or something that isn't time-dependant. So, if she's working and a seizure hits, she just continues where she left off when she's back. Kinda hard to do when dealing with phone calls but there has to be lots of work-from-home kinda things that would work out.

have you ever considered exploiting your unique situation for monetary gain to pay for better treatment with better specialists? just by this thread it's apparently this is a story people are engrossed with, a certain age group with your relationship with one of your fiancées alters, another who have probably passed on numerous women for complicating their life with things far less stressful.

Lovers gonna love

cliffs:

I'm picking up on a pattern. This may be an early warning sign.

Just made my way through the thread, thanks for posting this.
From reading your replies, doesn't it worry you that her dad might have another heart attack while driving her? The well-being of her dad aside, and assuming he doesn't crash the car in the process, I cant imagine being in that situation would be good for her

That feels like a rhetorical question, so instead - what steps have you taken on improving your poker game so you can make more monies and make new living arrangements?

Ok, some questions after reading this whole thread.

Which of the characters agreed with this thread? It seems to me that you would need alot of self confidence to have your friend post the story of your life, including pics.

Have you had different personalities read this thread? I wonder how different matilda/rebecca's responses would be.

Do you think it would help if her uncle would confess to her and tells her he's sorry before he dies? Could that help her in moving forward?

Do you think Michelle will change for the good as soon as the uncle passed away? Will this bring some sort of 'relief' for her?

Most of the time only the good people get cancer. Good to see her uncle got it. God is punishing him after all?

BTW, i'm in the lol jezus camp as well

Thanks for sharing this OP and I wish you and Michelle all the best in your prusuit for happyness together!

If the roles were reversed, do you think shed stick with you? Have you had this discussion? If so, what'd she say and how sincere was she?

holy ****

3,1,5,4,2.


But seriously, great thread - thanks for sharing.

Lol.

Did Matilda return and knock off OP?

LOL

anyone that says they wouldnt stay hasnt been in true love.

just finished watching sybil. pretty damn disturbing. worse than saw imo

way to gay up the thread

you're both pretty ****ed up imo.

Still around guys, just been busy.