All kinds of couples in the ls who enjoy this. We met this one really attractive couple where their first swinging experience together was finding another man for his wife to have sex with. It was a specific fantasy he had.

You'd be surprised. Some husbands just like to watch others like to join in, but not with the man. Most women (especially in the ls) really enjoy 2 men at once. Most like to get f***** by one while sucking the other one off. There are also plenty who like to do DP or even DV, although it's harder to find a guy who is comfortable doing that. Most people in the ls are pleasers and really enjoy watching their partner be satisfied.

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Have you ever 'crossed swords'?

Lol, well I don't really have any super twisted fantasies. Besides, it's not necessarily enough for me to be interested in the woman, my wife needs to be attracted to her and/or him.

So let's talk drugs now. Do you guys snort the **** with each other when you play hide the salami? Or is it more like a Mary Jane afterwards? A little xtc on the side? Exploring the other man's better halve on shrooms?

Im assuming large doses of alcohol are out of the picture, that is, if you dont want to be struck by the ol' curse of the whiskey dick.

I applaud you Op .. Being open and like minded is great.. If more couples were open to this there would be far less divorces .."dating but for couples" I like that description ..I am sure your having a lot of fun and a lot of excitement in your life .. And as long as there are no secrets and ongoing communication life will be great.

Amazes me how ******ed some posts are .. Childhood trauma lol

Or even streams? No, the only MFM type stuff I've done has been with another couple and it was from opposite ends.

Do u feel awkward or wrong that you do this, many feel sex is meant to further feelings in a relationship

We've only really drank when hooking up with others. You definitely don't want to overindulge though. I know some people do do recreational drugs (pot, blow, e) when swinging, but for the most part it's actually a bit taboo in the ls.


Thanks, yeah that's really what it's about, just having fun. We're not out there to find a new wife/husband, or to fill a hole (heyo) from childhood trauma, just finding new experiences.

Would you feel betrayed if you caught your wife cheating on you before discussing it with you?

I know the first time we hooked up with a couple, I was pretty nervous about how it might affect our relationship. My wife reassured me though that she loved me very much and no matter what happened she was still going home with me. When it actually happened I was really surprised by how normal and completely not weird it felt. Like I said earlier, it might sound weird, but swinging has actually made us closer since we're a lot more comfortable sharing anything that's on our mind with each other.

Definitely. We don't have an open marriage (i.e. we only play together). However, one of the benefits of swinging is it allows us to be physical with another person with your spouses permission. If she felt the need to cheat on me, it would be because I was not providing for her emotionally and she was not comfortable enough to tell me.

So how did this happen. In a club? Or at your/there house? Meet for a meal first? I guess I'm kinda just asking for a timeline and your general preperation?

25 yo supermodel and 70 yo husband want to hook up. Will your wife take one for the team?

I think we began messaging on a saturday or sunday. After exchanging a few email messages and pics and talking on the phone, they invited us to their place for the Friday. Unfortunately my wife got her period that day, but we didn't know what the protocol was and we didn't want to be presumptuous so we went anyway. Things were going well until we had to break the news to them. They seemed a bit disappointed and even when my wife said we can do everything but, they weren't really into it. So we decided to go check out the nearby swingers club since we'd never been before. The thing about most swingers clubs is it's usually byob and they provide mix and snacks. So we picked up some wine and hung out there for a bit. The other couple went out to smoke and when they came back they said ok let's go back to our place.

If the super model is bi, there's good chance she will. We recently hooked up with a couple where the girl was gorgeous, but the guy was ok and didn't have much of a personality. My wife was still really turned on, even though she wasn't super into the guy.

However, I think a lot of couples won't. Taking one of the team happens, but you definitely don't want to do it too often. I know one couple who each thought, the other person was into the partner from the 2nd couple only to realize they each took one for the team.

lol swinger bloopers

Do any of your friends or family know? Do you worry you might bump into a co-worker or something?

Family definitely not. My wife told a close friend of hers who lives in another city. Another friend knows that we propositioned a couple whom we know through him and his wife, but it hasn't come up in conversation. As far as running into a co-worker, definitely a little worried, but really, what are they going to say? "Hey I saw CanadianSwinger and his wife at a swingers club"?

CS - interesting thread. Maybe I missed this - but do you watch other dudes rail your wife? (I assume you have MFF threesomes with her.)

I worked with a girl who was a swinger. One of her friends got hurt in a car accident and she was telling me about visiting him in the hospital with a bunch of their swinger friends. She said while they were sitting around talking, one of the girls went around the room in a circle and gave every guy there a bj. Mind blown.

Aren't you worried about STDs? Even with protection, the chances of you or your partner getting a (new) STD has to be extraordinarily high.

Things may be great now, but do you worry about the long-term effects?

How does it feel when you see a man pleasing your woman more than you ever could?

You know it's actually cool, not in a cuckold kind of way, although there are some men that get off on specifically that. It's cool seeing your spouse enjoying herself while you are also enjoying yourself. I don't really like just watching though. As for whether or not I'm worried another man will pleasure my wife better than me. She's not married to me just because I can make her come, that's just absurd. You stay in a long term relationship for many more reasons than just great sex.

Mind blown too, that's pretty wild. Hospitals aren't exactly arousing.

STDs do worry me. However, we try to be safe, no bareback play, although that's about it for protection for us. (No dental dams or condoms during oral sex)

I never understood it, to be honest.

You come home from work early and your neighbour is banging your wife, she's a slut.

You come home from work early and your neighbour is banging your wife, you whip your **** out and come in your neighbours mouth, he says his missus owes you a ride, and it's swinging?