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Originally Posted by SGT RJ
How did you and your wife decide to get into this? Whose idea was it?
Do you go to swingers clubs or meet other couples on the interwebs?
Soft swap or full swap?
How much do you and your wife actually talk about the logistics? What I mean by that, do you talk about how the experience(s) is affecting your marriage, and if so, how is it affecting your marriage? Do you have kids, and if so how do you work around this (as I'm assuming you haven't told them and wouldn't want them to find out)?
We had talked about it in passing for a while, but only really decided to seriously pursue it this year. We made a profile on AFF and a few other sites and met some people that way. We have been to clubs, but the clubs in our area are not that great and the clientele tends to be on the older side. It's still a fun time because you can go dance and meet people without feeling like you're too old for the club scene.
We started out soft, but by our second hookup had transitioned to full. As far as communication we are far more open now because you pretty much have to be. We've definitely had some situations where I wasn't very comfortable and we've definitely made sure to talk them through.
We do have kids, but they are still young enough where it's not a concern. We can leave them with their grandparents when we decide to go out and it's not a problem at all. Might be more difficult once they are older, but we have family nearby so it shouldn't be a big deal.