well he didn't say which korea, so it's possible!

This is awesome.

While I agree with not burning bridges generally, I don't agree that others in an industry will know about the manner in which you leave. It's been my experience that ex-employers will only verify your employment/title, really general things.

Of course, you might once in a while run into someone who used to work there and knows the story, or are acquainted with someone who does, but that doesn't happen enough to worry about IME.

Caveat, I worked in software, where jobs are disposable. If you get in a bad situation, just go find another one. May not apply to others' fields.

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Da_Nit's post reminded me of my first job out of college. Software for a personal finance company, old mainframes, before the days of the interwebs.

New president comes in, says we're going to replace these systems (which were developed over 30 years), and we're going to do it by January!

Consultants were hired, people were pulled off regular development in 'waves' to go build this new system.

I was in the second wave. Had heard bad news from friends, and once I got in there, immediately could see what a trainwreck it was going to be.

What operating system? Don't know. What framework? Don't know. Interminable meetings wasting time talking about the possibility of doing something, and putting together huge binders of worthless paper.

I went on vacation. Upon my return, saw an ad in the paper for a development job. Got in touch, interviewed, got an offer.

Needless to say, that effort never resulted in any actual software being built, and the company's long out of business.

Back to the first job Monday, sent an email that I was bailing out. Boss-type told me I didn't need to give two weeks, I could just take off.

Met a couple friends for lunch, and went home. Started the new gig shortly, which was this weird internet development thing hardly nobody understood (this was 1997).

Flung me off in a totally different direction, one that has been generally good.

That's the only thing you can verify anyway, at least in any sort of corporate setting.

I remember at a previous job everyone with personnel responsibility got a pdf with a list of things they could/couldn't say if someone called because you were listed as a reference. The "can do" part basically only included job title and list of responsibilities / tasks that you knew about. Everything else was off limits to make sure you didn't say anything that could be used in a lawsuit.

as Double Down correctly noted, my first job was working for my dad - my childhood wasn't quite that traumatic lol

You're quite sure he ****ed your mom the night you quit the job?

Years ago when I lived in Japan I worked for a Japanese company doing regular office work. The company was family owned and the father was the president and the son was the vice president. It had about 10 employees. Turnover was super high. They acted very rude and condescending to everyone and really loved to lord over people. It was a pretty toxic place. After being there for about a year, I was 4th in seniority of the regular employees due to the high turnover. One lady even showed up one day to start working and quit the very next day. Not sure why, but I think she just got the vibe that the place was a trainwreck.

Anyway, the way that salaries work in Japan is you get 2 bonuses, one in July and one in December. The bonus was usually about 1.5x your monthly salary. The owners were also super cheap. There was one guy who started working in August of a year and since he wasn't working the full 6 month period for the bonus, they gave him a mini bonus of about $150 instead of prorating his bonus for the 5 months he worked and he was super pissed and the son and the father even got in an argument about it and caused some drama but the company president stuck to his guns and the guy got the minibonus. The guy also quit soon after that.

Anyway, it was about October and I was ready to quit the job. But I wanted to get that damn bonus. Knowing what I knew about the company and the president, I sure as hell wasn't going to say "It was nice working here. I'm going to be leaving at the end of the year so you have 2 months to hire my replacement and I will train them so there is a smooth transition." My position entailed a decent amount of responsibility but there was no way I was going to gamble on telling him I was quitting in advance. If I did that, there was a good chance they either would fire me right before the end of the year, or stiff me on the bonus.

So the end of the year comes, and I get the bonus. The company is closed for about 1 week for New Years so during that 1 week break I send the company president a polite email saying I'm quitting effective immediately and have a nice life. I had actually told most of my co-workers in advance I was doing this, the only people I didn't tell were the president, vice president and 2 other guys who were close to them.

So the company opens back up after the new year holiday is over and I get a text from one of my former coworkers on Monday morning and apparently the president didn't get the e-mail or didn't read it so they were all confused as to why I wasn't there and I guess one of the other co-workers had to explain to them that I quit. LOL. The only other interaction I had with anyone from the company is the HR guy texted me to ask me to send back my health insurance card, which I did. I never heard back from anyone from the company after that.

A+ for creativity.

haha, dang, tho I guess I'm glad for you, that would have been massively rough

In my freshman year in college, when I was young and irresponsible (I'm just irresponsible now), I had a job working 2 am to 6 am. Last week of the semester I was packing and taking finals, so I just quit showing up for work. I never called them and they never called me, so I gave it no further thought. I had worked the first week of the pay period but I figured I owed them a penalty for just bailing out like I did, and didn't try to collect the week's pay. But two weeks into the summer a paycheck showed up for that pay. I guess they had found my timecard in my desk and decided to pay me.

I've thought about quitting without even showing up for a new job. I'd been unemployed for three months, and accepted a job in California, where I really didn't want to go. On the day before I was to leave for the new job, I got a call from a local hiring manager that started his call by telling me all the reasons I should take his job. That's without interviewing or seeing me. I had a rare skill that he needed. I finally stopped him and told him I'd taken another job, but afterward wished I had at least interviewed there. I REALLY didn't want to go to California, but I guess a tiny smidgen of responsibility crept in and stopped me from doing it.

I've been at places where a guy did accept a job, but never showed up, lol.

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I mean..it's noticeably different than North American. This school was not of a very high quality as I indicated, and the parents sending their kids there wanted their kids to be taught like the people they hear on American TV.

I quit a job during height(depth?) of the pandemic last year. I've been in IT and IT Management for 30+ years, and this was the first job I ever quit without giving 2 weeks notice and without having another job lined up.

I had been at MegaBank for 3+ years as a project manager (PM) and just deployed a project on time when I heard from my boss that my "customer", a Senior VP wasn't happy with my progress on my other projects. The company was massively bureaucratic, and everything moved slow. Keep in mind a PM doesn't do any real work, they rely on the others doing real work. And in this case, the people who slowed things down were the Senior VP's people. Basically my job was to whip and tattle on his people constantly in addition to endless meetings and meeting bureaucracy. When I heard from my boss that we were going to have a meeting at the end of the week, I knew what that was going to be. It was going to be an ass chewing at the least, and a PIP (performance improvement plan) at the most. I was in a no-win situation long term. I had already considered quitting numerous times before, so this made my decision easy. I sent an email to my boss at 5:01 that same day saying today was my last day at MegaBank!

Yes, I probably burnt some bridges there, but I was tired, and I'm near the end of my career. Probably this was burnout. I've been doing deadline based work for all of the 30+ years in IT and have never had 1 more than 1 week off ever, so I think I needed a break.

I've actually done it a couple of times.

During my first marriage, my wife and I worked for a telephone sales company where for some reason I attracted the attention of a coworker my first day. Sexual attention. My first day became my last day.

The other time was during my second marriage. I was helplessly out of my depth and under tremendous pressure. I called my wife and told her I was quitting. She asked when my last day would be and I said that day. Even though she had done the same thing one time, she was not happy with me.

I read threads like this and see that I've been lucky to never have had a terrible boss or a crappy job.

I just love that there's an actual place called Megabank. It sounds like a made up company, like Initech.

Quit a poker dealer job a couple of hours before the shift. I was on the initiation probationary period, it was a good drive and was getting sent home half the time as soon as I got there, at least on weeknights. When my supervisor just wasn't hearing me when I called in, him saying we'll talk about it, I said, "I'm not coming tonight. I'm done." He took it very cool which helped me not feel bad about it.

OP in case you reconsider and want to leave your job with some notice, this is how to do it in style:

https://forumserver.twoplustwo.com/6...-jorb-1676999/

I'm just gonna leave this here..

Damnit bilf leaving her job

I was never that clear. When you go there, you sign a one year contract, where they provide salary, an apartment, and a round trip ticket. It crossed my mind that by bailing early, they might have a valid complaint that I was using the ticket and I might be in some sort of legal violation. When you're in a foreign country, I'm always a little worried about the difference in legal system (left over from Wesley Crusher being sentenced to death for walking on the grass in STNG).

Megabank is not the real name of the company, it is a fictitious name.

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I had a guy start work for me in a situation where we were hiring anyone we could find who seemed remotely qualified. We were sending people out to remote locations to install/configure PCs and routers and we needed them ASAP. This guy was a marginal performer during the training process and we weren't sure how he would do, so we sent him out with an experienced tech to work their first two locations together before he went out on his own. The experienced tech was supposed to just watch him and provide help if he got stuck and determine if he was going to be able to do the job. She later said that she thought he did pretty well on his first day -- he was a bit confused by the network stuff, but solid enough on the workstations, which was 98% of the job. Anyhow, on day two, she gets down to the lobby of the hotel where they were supposed to meet and go to the work location and he isn't there. She checks the parking lot and his car is gone. She thinks maybe there was a communication breakdown and he drove separately to the site, but when she gets there he isn't there. He doesn't ever return calls or show up that day. When she gets back to the hotel, he is still checked in, but doesn't answer his door so she leaves him a note. She calls me and tells me what is going on when he doesn't call back. I start calling him too. The next day, she finishes up that site, packs up and goes to the next one. I eventually call his emergency contact, who tells me that he has called home with stories about how work is going and I ask her to have him call me as soon as he gets the message. Finally, he calls almost two weeks later to let me know he quits and can I change his return ticket to fly home from the city he is currently in. The lawyers tell me to do that and he comes back to the office and tries to file an expense report for the two weeks to cover his hotels and meals and rental car for the entire time that he wasn't doing anything. He charged it all to his work credit card and I'm pretty sure he never paid up.

there should be a Hollywood movie about this, a kind of "Wedding Crashers" for the corporate world where a couple of guys travel around the country with fake resumes BSing their way into in-demand jobs and then abusing the hell out of it once they get hired

Office Crashers

Starring Joel McHale and Kal Penn

I'll get started on the script post haste!

I'd watch that on cable^Wstreaming.

lol, can we get some more details on this? How exactly does this go down? She corners you in the hallway and informs you she wants to suck your dick?

like I'm having a hard time imagining a scenario that this occurs in which either your wife isn't bat **** crazy, or you are a total louse. The magnitude of which depends on how overt this ladies interest in you was, which I'm struggling to see how it could have been that big unless you are some george clooney type, in which case why the **** were you married and working at a telephone sales company? But I can't see a scenario in which you don't have lots of awesome stories to tell