im really not sure what to do in this situation. my son got this girl pregnant (he is 13 she is 14). they came to me because they didnt know what to do and her parents would flip, and honestly, i dont know what to do. im not sure if i should tell her parents or help them with an abortion. i dont think it would be a good idea for either of them to be parents yet (id help them out obv).

im pretty pissed at my son because i thought i taught him better. these are alaska laws if any laws would apply in this situation. they just told me this like 2 hours ago and im pretty dumbfounded. she is staying the night with us and i didnt know what to say really. gettin deep in scotch right now because its the only thing that makes sense.

tell him to pound that **** bareback until she starts getting fat(ter) and then push her down some stairs or something

i would have gone to 4L for humor. Im a single dad and i really dont know what to do. i feel like im obligated to tell her parents, but idk

Based on the OP I'm gonna have to recommend pruning the family tree here

it's alaska a chick making it to 14 before getting pregnant is probably pretty responsible

betting you'll wish you didn't make this thread with a solid hangover tomorrow!

no advice tho, sorry, and good luck.

Obviously tell her parents. She's 14.

pretty sure telling her parents is the responsible thing to do, unlucky situation though op gl

This is the point where you tell the girl's parents about things. If the situation was reversed...

The fact you are asking this question is pretty telling

Alaska has a parental notification law so even if you don't tell the girls parents, somebody will have to if she wants to get an abortion.

With regards to what's your play, explain to them she can't get an abortion without her parents knowing (unless she crosses the border), and that you're willing to call her parents and let them know if she would like your help, or you're willing to go with her and your son to tell her parents together. If the abortion idea is just yours and not hers, then, unless she runs away, her parents are going to find out if she keeps the child or puts it up for adoption, so the offers about helping her tell her parents should still be in play.

Edit: I believe if she's been abused by her parents she could go to court to get permission for an abortion without her parents being notified. http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/blog/2...ication-battle

"your son"

nudge nudge, wink wink, say no more, say no more.

I'm guessing you aren't teaching as well as you think you are.

In any case, you straight up telling her parents would be bad. Better would be to strongly encourage them to do it, and offer to go with them. Tell them that someone needs to tell them, and if they won't do it then you will (maybe they'd prefer that, actually).

1. I would ask them if abortion is an option with them and with her parents. If them or her parent's aren't pro choice I would advice them look for a husband and wife looking to adopt. There is no way these kids should try to raise a baby at 14&15.

2. I would go with your son and his GF to her house to inform her parents that she is pregnant. Maybe you tell the parents (although just being there when they tell them may actually be better since its their responsibility). And tell them that the kids came to you first as she is scared ****less.

3. Explain to them that you asked the 2 of them if they, and you (her parents) would be against an abortion. They said Y/N. If they agree with abortion I would offer to pay it. Then make my son get a job to pay me back.

4. Take it from there. If her parents would be against it ask them if they are willing to help you and them find a couple looking to adopt.

5. If adoption is out of the question as well then the baby will most likely get raised by her parents since there is no way you could expect these 2 to be able to raise a baby by themselves, unless these kids are super responsible and just ****ed up this one time.

GL.

If she decided to keep the baby, would she be able to live with you and your son? Is your trailer single-wide or is it double-wide?

I think all the actual advice in this thread is pretty reasonable, except for one thing. You should not bring up abortion. If they (meaning she, really) brings it up than you can support that as a choice, but I feel like you bringing it up as an option will make a scared pregnant fourteen tear old girl pressured into making a choice that she is not comfortable with.

In fact, you should sit them down and ask them how they feel about it. Obviously, they need to tell her parents, and you should offer your support in helping them do that. Ask them what they think their options are, and which way they are leaning, and then answer any questions they have. This is a very delicate situation, especially for terrified teenagers, so try not to force your own agenda.

fyp.

and, the kids are probably scared ****less right now. i think you should sit them down and just let them know how much support they both have from you. and after that you obv you have to tell the parents. think about it if the roles were reversed, you would want to know.

Are her parents crazy christians who are against abortion? If so... well you're all ****ed. Obv tell her parents. Clearly abortion is the best option. Hope they are cool with that.

he can tell them about the option of abortion w/o pushing his own agenda imo. its pretty important they both know thats an option imo...

On the flip side, if they don't recognise abortion as an option (especially since OP mentions that they came to him first since girl's parents would flip) I would say it is pretty important to make them aware.

My sister is heavily pregnant atm, she was/is 17. It's a bad situation imo that I'm not going to go into, but one thing I have learned is that there's no way of confronting these things without being completely frank. This is inevitably going to take its toll on all parties involved; there's no way of protecting yourself, your son, or the young lady.

I didn't read the whole thread but you let your 13yr old son's 14yr old girl friend stay the night and you can't believe he knocked her up?

LOL at thinking that they had to stay the night for her to get knocked up.

LOL @ good parenting for letting a 14yr old girl stay the night with his 13yr old son.

I never said they had to stay the night together for her to get preggo.

Um she's already knocked up whats the worse than can happen?

What else is that sentence supposed to mean?

Pretty sure most teenage knocking up happens when parents are not around.
You got no point.