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Originally Posted by theseus51
This is the best intro Zen book I ever read, and I read about 15 Zen books.
I think that you just have to basically understand that anger is up to you. Sure, the moment someone sucks out, you get pissed off, everyone does. But like 30 seconds after it happens, it's up to you to decide how much you want to let it bother you. Same with everything in life. Initially you have a gut reaction, and you can't change that part. But after a few moments, it really is up to you how much you want to let it bother you. Think about that. =)
And like punching things and yelling is just reinforcing anger and making it stronger. But you don't want to bottle anger inside either. Rather, do a 3rd option, just decide not to be angry. Once you realize anger is a choice, life will be a lot better.
Yah, I gleaned 3 major concepts from the book:
1) As you mentioned, anger is what you make it out to be. Everyone has a moment where they feel some anger, some immediately let it dissipate, while others keep fueling it until it builds into a rage where you start taking it out on people/things.
2) Everyone always thinks the grass is greener on the other side, but once you take that vacation to Thailand, you realize your living situation isn't nearly as bad as what you perceive. If you can make the most of what you have and realize there is no paradise on Earth, you're better off for it.
3) Everyone believes if they just had a million bucks or just had a hot girlfriend, whatever, then life would be great, but people are never content. When you have a million you want 5 million, it's an endless cycle. Look at all the celebrities whose lives are F'ed up, fame and fortune is nothing, life is just accepting our lot in life and making the most of what we have while suppressing potentially harmful emotions like anger, lust, greed, etc.
Besides this book, I had only read Larry Phillips Zen/Poker book, which was pretty worthless to me, but Hardcore Zen got me very interested in the topic and I just ordered 3 more Zen books recommended from this thread that I'll hopefully receive this week.