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Originally Posted by dc_publius
I think some of you guys are taking the points I made too literally.
I did take the black and white words you wrote at face value, yes.
FTR, I do think you are a good poster. Everyone has an off day. I didn't buy FB at ~$17 because I waited for it to drop another $0.25. I'm a moron.
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There are unique paths and exceptions to everything.
Yes.
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I can pick someone out I know that has done exactly as you said - but exceptions don't prove the rule.
Your social circle is irrelevant to whether or not young women like marrying older, more successful men. In fact, the VAST majority of the evidence is against you. Younger, hotter, more normal women like marrying older, more confident, well-dressed, successful men. Period. End of story. Ceteris paribus.
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Naj is right that there are plenty of young women who are willing to marry up. But do you really want to be with a woman who sees you as her ticket to marry up? To get laid, excellent. To have any sort of relationship with, hell no.
THIS IS THE PART THAT IS
COMPLETE AND UTTER BULL $4!t.
I have a brilliant, beautiful female friend, Irish lass, probably a solid 9.5 who is getting her Ph.D in Astrophysics. So....if she dates an older, wiser [not smarter], successful man in NYC it's because she's looking for the 'Golden Ticket' like fcuking Willy Wonka?!? IS THIS REAL LYFE?
You know what a
'nice date' is to the 21-yr old models in Manhattan? 2 drinks at a rooftop bar, and maybe some decent Mexican with fresh guac, or midrange sushi, or g..d.... Shake Shack. Not kidding.
[much less the 18, 19, 20 yr olds...some of them don't even know what bourbon is.]
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I already addressed the health and image issue and how badly most people fare with their battle with time.
Women get hit 10x harder than men. Just walk around NYC, Miami, Houston, Montreal, LV, LA, Barcelona, Rome, Atlanta, ad infinitum.
So...if women age at a much faster RELATIVE rate than guys [fairly inarguable, exceptions obvs] why on EARTH would you marry someone in your MBA/JD/etc class who is the same age or god forbid older?
Look, I'm not saying if you find your 'One True Love' [ahahahahah] that you shouldn't marry her. Of course: Date, live with, engage, and then marry her if she's The One.
My bff did: met frosh year, moved in soph year, lived together 3 years, engaged, married within a year, 4 degrees, 3 kids and ~2 decades later they are still happy.
It happens.
NOT very often.
FTR, I'm not 'blaming' girls/women for any of this. I sure as hell didn't know who I was or what I wanted at 19, 21, 23, 25...29 I started to have more of an idea and, coincidentally, that was pretty much when women start throwing themselves at you.
...but you really think they know at that age either??? I guarantee you they do not. 1 in a million does.
Hell, in Houston, Dallas, Carolinas, lots of the Deep South, girls are definitely looking to date older guys. Not for money: plenty of rich trust funders that are 21...25... in any major city. I work with some of those families, for several years now. Girls *know* those guys are getting $10m or 20 or 75msoon just from the last name alone...they don't do as well as you think with
the 'normal, undamaged' women.
Apologies if I misinterpreted the remarks about 27-29 cohort. Still not 100% sure what was originally meant, but I'll take the blame.