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Originally Posted by BrianTheMick2
I wasn't suggesting hanging around high schools or seeking out women with a daddy complex so as to take advantage of them.
Past college age, they simply aren't little girls any more. If they are emotionally mature, they are emotionally mature.
No. No women under 27 would date a man over 40 without serious immaturity or emotional damage. Older men have nothing to offer smart, independent, emotionally developed women. For women less than 30, 98% of 40+ men are, as compared to her potential dating pool (25-35):
- Substantially less physically attractive
- Less agile mentally and emotionally
- Less suitable as fathers
- Have far fewer good years left to share
- Less reliable (aging takes it toll, and substantial health and emotional risks come in).
- Usually have significant baggage (kids, divorce, established careers/locations, failure at life hence being single)
- Less to offer in the far future (he will be 70 when she is 45-55).
- Less able to connect and share similar goals, ideals, social circles, new adventures, and hence open-ended possibilities.
Why would any sane, undamaged woman choose an older man except for money (hardly the basis of a marriage), desiring of a daddy figure (which she will grow out of) or short term insecurity (hardly the basis of a marriage)?
Again, if you just want a vagina and don't care about total desirability, it doesn't matter so much, but I think most men want a desirable wife they can connect with long term.
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I've been with woman younger and older than me. It is emotional maturity (and the obvious things like being decent towards each other and enjoying each other's company and having common/shared goals) that matters.
Emotionally mature women don't date much older men. It is the little girls, the damaged and the confused that date much older men. If that's your thing then I agree, you can date or even marry such women into your 40s. It usually ends badly for both parties though. I have met many couples with >15 year age gaps. It works out fine for a while, until the woman grows up a bit emotionally (this can happen anywhere from late 20s to 40s) and realizes what she's done. Usually the precipitator is the man becoming slower or ossified in some way due to aging. It's ugly to watch. Then you're left with a situation where he either controls her, or she leaves him. It's not a healthy or happy way to live your life in the longer term. That's why the advice in this thread is very sound.
Last edited by Truthsayer; 09-29-2013 at 11:37 PM.