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Originally Posted by spaceman Bryce
Im not sure if its clear from my last sentence but what I meant by they would just say go to college for another 10 years is the people who i trust don't know how to give advice about this because they would just say when you finish your degree youll have a better job but i already went to 3 colleges it doesnt work for me. since they all have degrees it's like
me at
32: once you finish your degree you can get a real job
35: once you finish your degree you can get a real job
40: once you finish your degree you can get a real job
75: now you can pay your tuition money with social security
**** that i want to have fun.
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Originally Posted by spaceman Bryce
That's not entirely true I do have ambition. And a lot of soft skills.
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Originally Posted by spaceman Bryce
Ive already attended three colleges and now i'm done with it. Toothsayer is right about that stuff when it comes to me. The truth is Ive probably missed a lot of financial and fun opportunities by wasting time with college.
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Originally Posted by spaceman Bryce
also i dont have any big debts i made a bunch of money awhie back
Spaceman Bryce, I don't know much about you but I do enjoy reading your posts. I will say that it seems you are scattered in your thoughts and it's very hard to pin down your actual goal here. From what I've read of your posts, it seems there is one thing that needs to be addressed first - what
you actually want.
You have to stabilize your life first. For some people that doesn't happen until they get all of the "I want to have fun" thing out of the way. Let me let you in on a little secret - almost everyone wants to have fun. The problem is they have to find a way to incorporate that into their lives which require some sort of structure and stability.
For example, I've known people who act in a life-ruining manner in a very short amount of time (I've recently watched two good friends throw their entire lives away within 6 months), realize their mistake or had someone intervene, fixed it for a decade, and then do it again. That usually involves a vice like gambling or alcohol/drugs. Some people get past that, some people never do and are always at risk.
You have already said that college isn't for you. That's a great start because one of the things hanging you up in life is settled. Once you make a decision like that, it's one piece of the puzzle done that lets you sleep at night. Forget about it and move on, don't waste one more second thinking about woulda coulda shoulda, what's done is done.
Now what you have to do is figure out what you want and what you're willing to do in order to achieve it. For example, if you are a person with hopeless vices like alcohol or drugs and it will always lead you to losing your job or being arrested, I would say concentrate on achieving a situation where you can live some sort of acceptable existence in relative safety within the confines of those limitations.
If you are a person who is ambitious, but have no discipline, you need to find a job that caters to your sense of "fun". Something like a night-club promoter or a job in the service industry, such as a bartender at a good place or a door-man at a nice hotel, or even a hair-dresser at a good salon. All of those occupations can make surprisingly good money if you can get in the right place and have the right personality. If you are a person who likes to party and wake up at noon to be ready for a 3pm start of a shift, those jobs might be much better suited for you (I had a blast doing those jobs).
My point is you need to figure the most important part of this equation - you. Find an inner peace and accept who you are. Not everyone is an accountant just as not everyone is an artist just as not everyone is a kindergarten teacher just as not everyone is an underwater welder. Yes, many people do not realize you can be paid to hang from the side of a helicopter working on power lines just as you can be for doing another person's tax returns. I remember talking to a guy at an airport who worked on a deep-sea rig in the Gulf of Mexico who lived in Maine. His schedule was 1 month on / 1 month off. It boggled my mind that any human being could work that schedule. (He did mention he made 200k a year).
Find the type of role you can live with, get good at it, and then maximize that situation. You may eke out a living being a bartender at the local Applebee's, but you'd make a
lot more money being a bartender at Capital Grille.
Make it happen.
Last edited by wil318466; 06-11-2017 at 01:02 AM.