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Originally Posted by the_letter_f
well, i am very happy to be reminded by several people here that this is a douche-heavy bulletin board, and i do need to be reminded about that. it's hard to not be a little defensive after reading over three hundred comments about yourself that range from insensitive to downright insulting.
Why are we douches just because we have a little laugh about someone who looks funny/disgusting? It's the same exact way with a ton of weird looking people. Gobbo, for example, has been ridiculed on this board over and over and has had a lot more to complain about in the past, but he admits he looks a bit funny and has a good laugh about it. That's the way to go. Follow his example, and don't be offended. You knew people would find you weird/ugly/disgusting when you went ahead and changed your sex. I'm not saying you shouldn't have done it because of that, but you took it for granted because this was how you wanted to look.
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Originally Posted by the_letter_f
i am not trying to just "educate" everyone all the time or change the forum--i just aim to defend myself from these salvos of verbal hate. the best way i know to do that is to adjust the framing of the issue in order to exclude most of the background noise and static and focus on what it is exactly that i do by existing that bothers people here enough that they feel the need to toss decency out the window and slander my name.
Noone in here has slandered your name. All we have done is made fun of how you look. Anyone who sees you can tell how you look. Most people here truly don't care you exist. Decency is for live play, on the internet, there is no need to be decent or civil. We just say whatever we want and think. It's much more honest in that way. These people had no way of knowing you would ever see this, and therefore never intended to hurt you in any way. This is just how they feel about the subject. Learn from it, because IRL you'll never experience such honesty.
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Originally Posted by the_letter_f
i guess there is just a confusion here. i understand that i present a threat to "straight" men in that i am a transsexual woman who at one time in her life was a man, and so if a "straight" man ever wanted to actually have a relationship with me, his peers would apply social pressure to imply that he is somehow "gay." the thing about it is, any straight man, and any man period worth his salt, should be secure enough in his manhood and personal integrity to like or not like whatever he prefers. so, the men posting about me and the external morphology of my genitals seem scared. and fear and masculinity to me never live in the same house.
Please, stop using "straight" and "gay" like it's supposed to be within "". It's not. Both straight and gay are very clear and bordered concepts. 99% of people fit into one of these two catagories. There is no need for "". You are different than 99% of people. You are not a threat to men. His peers wouldn't apply social pressure, but he would create this himself. You look like a man with a partly female body. To date you would be as gay as dating any woman who looks like a man. I have no problem with the fact you were once a man, but I have a problem with the fact that you still look like one, but you added some tits and long hair. The fact you try to appeal to the ego of straight men by talking about fear and being scared of you by saying you think straight men should be fearless just shows you truly don't understand. All the men here say you're disgusting because that is how they truly feel, they are declaring their personal preference of NOT you. They don't say this because they fear you or don't understand you, they say this because this is truly how they feel.
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Originally Posted by the_letter_f
above and beyond that (not that it even matters) i have clearly stated that i am oriented to find women attractive and am in a long-term monogamous relationship, so all this talk about what's between my legs or what men i would or wouldn't sleep with and how is all irrelevant.
but the fact that i appropriate a straight femininity (i don't look like a typical dyke) means that if a straight guy actually did want to have a relationship with me, that relationship would not be gay! if you've seen me walk in a room, i'm 6'3" in heels, with blonde hair, tits, tight clothes, eyelashes, and draped in diamonds--i want you straight men to want me. that's good! you should! and there's nothing wrong with that, because i am dressing to attract men. the fact that i am a lesbian is irrelevant.
How very hypocritical of you to say you don't look like a typical dyke. I assume by this statement you mean the short-haired Home Depot stereotype of a lesbian? You say this while you are trying to argue you think the stereotypes about your own kind should be banned and people shouldn't be so out-spoken and practice a little decency? Oh my, you're even worse than I thought.
Talking about what's between your legs and what kind of men you would like may seem irrelevant to you, but it will help educate the public about your kind. Isn't that what you wanted in the first place? To gain recognizion and respect you must teach the people what you are. You want straight men to want you, while you are a lesbian. To me, this sounds like you have very serious self-esteem issues. Why do you want to attract people you are not attracted to? Just because you want people to think you're hot to boost your ego. How low must your self-esteem be if you're willing to go through all the lengths of getting tits, long hair, soft skin and whatnot just for a little boost. You're truly pathetic.
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Originally Posted by the_letter_f
so i guess then it comes down to what you consider gay--would a straight man consider it "more" "gay" to be sexually involved with a very butch looking female with facial hair, short cropped hair, flat chest, wearing painter pants or overalls, but who was a natal female, or to be involved with someone like me born a man but now a female with breasts, soft skin, and long hair? and secondly, is it "more" "gay" to have tried a single homosexual experience with another man, not liked it, and only sleep with women, versus always sleeping with women and never with men, but fantasizing about sleeping with men?
It is gay to want to have sex with someone of the same gender. It is straight to want to have sex with someone of the opposite gender. For 99% of people, there is no gray area. Some people like fat chicks, some people like skinny chicks, some people like short hair and small breasts, others the opposite. I don't think there's a lot of men out there who like women with facial hair, but I can imagine there being men who don't really care about it. All these men are straight. The difference between a man and a woman is big and obvious. If you can't tell if someone is a man or a woman, and you wan't to have sex with it, I have no idea what to call your sexual preference.
tl;dr: You are NOT a threat to us. You are NOT intimidating, scary or fearsome. You are just a freak and a very weird dude and we're pointing that fact out and having a laugh about it. Deal with it, or GTFO.
PS. This got a lot longer than I expected, but your ignorance really pisses me off. Please feel free to ignore this and live on in your own little world thinking the world is out to get you. I just had to get this off my chest. You people really annoy me.
Last edited by Lenny-T; 02-10-2010 at 05:40 AM.