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Originally Posted by uke_master
I'm sorry this is all just so ridiculously contrived. You are talking about a hypothetical situation where you don't know what someones pronouns are, don't know whether they go by "mother" or "father" but it magically is the precise day they gave birth and you need an objective answer immediately? Why must we endlessly invent these bizarre fringe case linguistic rabbit holes?
The general heuristic is that trans men should be referred to and celebrated according to their male identity. They will likely refer to themselves as a father and celebrate on fathers day. That should be enough to generally answer your question. But humans are varied and I'm sure exceptions exist. Regardless, "happy birthday person day" isn't a societal thing, and it makes sense that it wouldn't be this because "mother" is already far beyond "birthing person" when you consider surrogacy, adoption, lesbian parents, etc. Your suggestion seems just completely obviously bad.
Because as you KEEP belittling others for not knowing these 'easy answers' you then later admit in instance after instance, we need to 'ask them' to know.
You refuse to see the contradiction in that. If it was easy to know, we would not have to ask them.
And canj people ask, each and every time to ensure they don't address someone or some group wrongly? Sure. But that is a wholesale change from where we are and will require time, patience and re-enforcement.
People like you, standing on the sidelines mocking them and belittling them with every mistake (while calling for them to not tone police you [aka 'suck it up as I will not stop insulting you'] are the biggest part of the problem.
You uke, are far more likely to drive a moderate person trying to do the right thing and to learn towards the right and into being deliberately obstinate towards trans people, then you are to ever help anyone accept this stuff. You will deny that and mock that, but it is absolutely true whether you know it or not, accept it or not. But then you get more 'bad people' to point at and virtue signal against that way, ...so win! I guess.
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Originally Posted by uke_master
Surely you get that the choice of tone I use when arguing with you on an internet forum is different than the tone I might use in other real world contexts......right? Like do you really think when a student asks me a question in university I'm going to choose a tone of derision for their idiocy? Heck, this forum is basically one of the few places one can let off steam and give those snarky replies you have to hold in check in almost every context. So no, I find your tone policing attempts utterly void.
I sincerely hope so but seriously doubt. It just seems to be your default with anyone and everyone here the second they saw something or express an idea you disagree with. Attack, belittle, smear and go immediately to challenging their intent.