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Originally Posted by Rococo
Cuepee,
You and I don't agree on everything, but we agree that technology has warped social interaction among the comfortable class in the developed world in a way that is probably a net negative.
To be honest Bumble and Tinder have been great for me. Especially during covid when direct interactions have been so limited.
I began what I call my 'Born Again Single' years just over 10 years ago. Free of familial responsibilities and able to live my life where and how I wanted.
I am in a good place financially and I keep myself in very good shape and as such I think I am in my dating prime. I am not a pretty boy but I get enough attention to keep me happy. And I can easily find a lot of attention and dates, especially thru the App's if I want them.
I have a lot of guy friends who have not aged as well, and have not had great success in their careers. They are not poor but they are kind of stuck in the (lower )middle class workers rut, with few assets and little disposable income and they have a very different single life than I do.
I've mentioned it before but there is always a percent of men (~10% imo), that when single (and some even when not) desire as much sex with as many different females as they can get. A different gal every night. If this guy is good looking, has any game, and is on Tinder or Bumble, he has found his nirvana. I have 2 pretty boy guy friends that basically the only criteria they subject women too is 'will you come over'? If the woman is not attractive to them even a bit then they don't want to go out on dates. They are not going to dine them. But they also will not say 'no' to any women willing to come over for just sex. She may show up hoping for more but he is not offering more. Not to her.
And as such the 70% of women who are not that attractive and the 15% who are attractive but not at these top 10% of male players are gravitating to these men who will now make time for them. Is it an ego boost? Do they actually think they will 'win over' the player? I don't know.
But time and time and time again when I go out on a first date with a gal, so many of them say 'oh those Apps are just for hoking up', which tells me what THEY have used them for, purposely or not. We almost always end up chatting about it and it is always the same story. They meet these good looking, interesting guys but they are only interested in sex and not relationships. Well ya, that is the reality for that Top 10%. Go to the bottom 70% of guys on those Apps and these women would have a completely different experience but no woman is swiping on those guys. Not when, even as an average gal she is getting the Top 10% of guys swiping on her as well. Just not for the reason she wants.
IT is a very sad dynamic when I talk to my guy friends who are so turned off by it (no one ever picks them) but also the women who get so jaded (it is just for hooking up) because they are just missing one another in the pool.