Everything he posted via PM seemed fine and not special regarding KS family or whatever. If it was that private he wouldn’t share it with a stranger on the internet? What’s wrong with having Bi polar? I don’t get it

I dont think he has. Id prefer to not see victor eat a 1 monther but if this was the old P, you, vic, PW, kel, and lucioum and jal would be gone by now.

...and i legitimately enjoy reading posts from all of them.

There's no reason for me to think that was even a partial reason he was banned, and I have no idea why people are assuming it was the only or even the main reason.

He was repeatedly breaking rules in every thread he participated in, and then making the same complaints about moderation over and over.

Our friendly moderator even admitted that she should have banned him before he shared the PM. If anything, that was the straw that broke the camel's back.

Like with most things moderator-related, it's pretty subjective. There will be times when it's obvious, and times when it's not.

Personally, I try to err on the side of assuming PMs are meant to be private and generally won't share unless I know it's OK to do so. But when I send PMs, I am aware that not everyone feels the same way and thus try not to send anything that would cause problems for me if they were to become public. It's a subject about which people have very different feelings.

FWIW, this isn't a "back in the day" issue - messages here are still labelled "Private Messages". That said, I agree that this doesn't mean they can never be shared under any circumstances.

Great. That's you.

There can be all sorts of reasons someone might share something private with a stranger that they wouldn't want posted publicly. It's fine if you don't agree with that, but they don't need to justify it to you. Everyone is different.

Who said there was anything wrong with it? People wanting to keep certain information private doesn't imply anything good or bad about that information.


And to be clear, I'm not weighing in on whether this particular ban was justified or not. I don't find the ban surprising given what was posted, and jbouton's history, but I'm not in a place to judge it. I'm just trying to provide a little clarity, or at least some background, regarding the sharing of private messages.

I agree with what you said. I still feel as if it’s an overreaction. Also how can one know what’s true or not about what KS says? And what if this is bait , ya know so JB posts it and gets banned?

I think he was upset about the part where KS asked about his therapist.

But as already pointed out, jbouton had already made an entire thread about how he has Tourette's Syndrome so wanted to get some kind of special treatment here.

I don't know if people with TS generally need a therapist or not, but he was definitely having trouble making himself understood here (then blaming everyone except himself for the problem).

As pointed out repeatedly in the trans thread not so long ago, many people consider any mental illnesses to be stigmatization.

FWIW, I don't think King Spew's private message was particularly offensive given the many posts responding to jb which explicitly said something about his mental health. The very recent "don't stigmatize his mental health" post ultimately clued him in that he could use a PM as ammunition to prove that he is being unfairly attacked on these forums by a big bad mod.

If somebody has legitimate serious mental health issues, I don't think it would be nice to take shots at them belittling their condition. I personally thought that people that were replying aggressively to Lirva a few months ago, when he was clearly in serious mental distress, were way out of line. Other than being obsessive and extremely annoying, we don't really have any evidence of jb actually suffering from mental health issues, so it seems to me that he is doing the whole "throw rocks and hide under mom's skirt" thing when he whines incessantly about being a victim when at the same time he makes a dozen posts a day attacking other posters.

Another great theory: JB only caught another ban because he was entrapped!

I don't think being an insufferable dolt with a persecution complex is a legitimate mental health issue, but I'll defer to the experts.

If only JB looked as good as CZJ in a catsuit doing yoga moves in a room full of laser beams.

Bouton is the Connery character in this scenario, CZJ is King Spew!

Aren't the pictures in the wrong spots here? It looks like jbouton trapping KS.

No lol. You guys have forgotten the film. The chick is the investigator.

If only CZJ looked as good as King Spew in a catsuit doing yoga moves in a room full of laser beams.

I thought she was stealing something, that's why she's dodging the security laser beams.

I may have forgotten the plot but not the scene.

Yes, she is. It's all very complicated. Just trust me on this one.

Likewise. Had to wikipedia that **** to make sure I got it the right way round lol.

The issue has now been thoroughly covered, but I'd like to add that original names tend to stick even if they don't accurately describe something. Podcast would be an example - iPods aren't exactly the main way to listen these days but the name endures.

I will never understand some people's insistence on knowing whether there is a specific rule for everything. There will never be a specific rule for everything. 2+2 isn't a taxonomy project.