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Originally Posted by Tien
My wife made me buy some $1000 purse today because it matches other clothing items when she goes out. She already has tons of purses.
Make it make sense.
Your wife identifies as the bride, or as the feminine ideal, but there is a part of her which recognizes she is not yet fully that. This creates a conflict within her, and the desire to fully transform arises. The part of her which fears and resists the transformation process rushes forward, proposing to resolve the tension through instant validation.
Early in the formation of identity, validation is helpful in affirming the new identity. Still, one cannot fully become except through transformation, which is in opposition to quick validation.