I had meant to call the thread "On Propriety and the Impartial Observer". I wasn't sure I could bridge the concepts succinctly. They are powerful and important.
Propriety is the social normal set by the collective interactions of the participants of the forum (or have I misunderstood how to use the word?)....
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pro·pri·e·ty
/p(r)əˈprīədē/
noun
the state or quality of conforming to conventionally accepted standards of behavior or morals.
If you feel at some point your 'red/blue' opponent is engaging insincerely you can invoke the impartial observer by reminding them that the entire forum is reading the dialogue. If your opponent isn't a psychopath, they will at least care if they lose the favor of whom they deem to be their supporters.
There is a concept there, a type of pressure, or feeling/conscience that exists, even if the audience isn't actually impartial, there is a relationship that keeps us in check, lest internally we feel like we are losing...because we think maybe we are losing the favor of the crowd.
Our projection of this crowd and the crowd itself therefore shape and temper the (in)sincerity of our interactions.
Even mods have to bend to the propriety of the forum.
Thus, propriety is the great rule setter and its rules are upheld by the collective of participants of whom form the (great) impartial observer.