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Originally Posted by juan valdez
Your uncharitable mind-reads about my personal experience knowing someone from highschool that eventually became someone living trans is both silly and wrong.
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Originally Posted by uke_master
As my post acknowledged, I'm well aware of mental health and suicide challenges in the trans community. I don't typically make disgusting quips about suicide like "If you're trying to kill yourself at a higher rate than slaves or prisoners, there's definitely something to look in to", but I am aware the suicide rate is higher. It is possible to talk about that from a place of compassion to affect social change that improves the quality of life for the trans community. However, these challenges can also be used - disgustingly - to denigrate trans people. Let's see what you choose:
After pointing out your inaccurate and uncharitable (understatement) mind-reads I was hoping you would pump the brakes with all the silly moralizing and completely dishonest fabrication of narrative. Let's see what you choose
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Originally Posted by uke_master
This is terrible in many ways. Firstly, notice that your "evidence" of mental illness is a higher proportion of trans people having other mental illnesses such as depression, suicide attempts, etc. I.e. some have mental illnesses and some do not. Much like gay cis people. Or straight cis people. But then your conclusion is gender fluid people definitely ARE mentally ill, trans people you aren't sure about, and gay people are not.
Correct.
My OPINION is that people who switch back and forth between genders daily, weekly, or even hourly are mentally ill. Am I supposed to just think like you or I'm evil? There's no evidence to support my opinion? What exactly is so wrong with holding this opinion? This isn't "terrible" it's a perfectly reasonable evidence-based opinion. Thanks for moralizing though
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Originally Posted by uke_master
You are using valid evidence (not that you actually provide any) to mental health problems in the community to be able to label the members of the community AT LARGE as mentally ill.
No, I just made it clear my opinion is that people who tell you their gender changes back and forth are mentally ill. Describing this as labeling an entire community AT LARGE mentally ill is just you fabricating more narrative so you can moralize
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Originally Posted by uke_master
If you commit suicide, yes you had a mental illness. And yes, trans people are more likely than cis people to try and commit suicide. But that doesn't mean "trans people are mentally ill", as a collective statement is just doesn't make any sense. And you aren't even consistent, homosexuals also commit suicide higher than heterosexuals (and less than trans) yet you don't think homosexuals are "mentally ill".
You're right it doesn't mean "trans people are mentally ill". Why are you framing it as if that's a claim I made or put those words in quotes as if that's something I said? Within this same post you have acknowledged and responded to my comments that indicate this to be the case. Now all of the sudden it's convenient to fabricate a narrative and do some more moralizing.
What I did do was point out was that the difference in suicide and suicide attempt stats between the trans community and other people suffering and oppressed such as slaves or people in prison to suggest oppression doesn't explain away the disparity. Same with the different rates in the gay community and trans community. I even suggested if you didn't agree with that, to offer up some data that states otherwise. Obviously you haven't done that, all you've done is fabricate a narrative so you can hop on the soap box and moralize.
What that would leave a rational person to consider is how is this disparity in suicide and suicide attempts vs other "marginalized", oppressed, or suffering groups explained?
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Originally Posted by uke_master
This is what I mean by the standard trope of "weaponizing" mental health in the community. The mere existence of mental health is being held up as an attack on the entire community.
The fact that anything I have written being described as an attack is more narrative fabrication and moralizing. Nobody has been attacked or is getting attacked. Try not to faint at the sight of the morally repugnant people who don't share your views.
Was I "weaponizing" mental health when I talked about people coming back from war with PTSD, which is a mental illness that leads to depression, anxiety, and suicide? Was it an attack on vets?
Maybe you could offer me a random historical note that would help illustrate how ridiculous your pov is here.....
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Originally Posted by uke_master
As a random historical note , in ww1 what we call PTSD was called shell shock. And some soliders were tried and executed for it.
I guess diagnosing people with PTSD and categorizing it as a mental illness was a giant leap backwards? Maybe you could twist this in to some narrative where I'm wishing awful things on vets too
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Originally Posted by uke_master
Next up we have your tragic if common story about a HS acquaintance. When you had no idea they were trans, you wax on about how they mostly fit in and appeared normal to you and your cis-gendered friends. However, the pressure to "fit in" and "appear normal" (meaning act straight and cis-gendered), the fear that they would be mocked for presenting their truth, the fear that their very identify will be denied, these are all factors that lead to mental health challenges. I can say from experience my 90s era HS was not a friendly place to be gay, indeed everything bad was even called gay.
Uh right? I don't think there has been any disagreement with elevated suicide rates in the gay community or the likely cause. This is why it's used comparatively vs the trans community. It seems like everyone agrees that people in these situations attempt suicide more often. This doesn't explain the disparity though.
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Originally Posted by uke_master
And for your HS acquaintance when they did come out, you've mocked them for their postings in social media. I'm sure a perfect pea like yourself who can't stand instagram models would never do this,
If my grandmother, mother, sister, daughter, girlfriend, wife, female friend, or male friend did this my reaction would range from stop skanking it up and embarrassing yourself to hey if you want my opinion on your social media behavior, just let me know. I'm not against watching porn either, that doesn't mean I think being in pornos is normal, a good idea, or socially acceptable. If I'm going to describe someone I know and that person was in a porno or repeatedly posts pictures of themselves in lingerie on facebook, that's going to be part of the description. Leaving that out would just be weird
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Originally Posted by uke_master
but perhaps others at highschool, let's say, let it be known that if they DID wear women's clothing they would also be mocked as you have done years later. Perhaps that pressure led them to dress up as your version of "normal". Perhaps that led to a suicide attempt you don't know about.
The fact that I "mocked" them is just you fabricating more narrative and moralizing. People don't usually fill their facebook pages with themselves in lingerie. It's not normal behavior. Pointing out that they didn't simply come out and post pictures of themselves in dresses or whatever else the evil patriarchy deems feminine clothing is notable. I don't no what to make of it but it happened and it was notable. My best guess is an in your face defiance built up from having to hide that side of themselves for so long. But what's the point of discussing things like that, right? This is a message board, a place where you can fabricate narratives, attack people, and moralize. Maybe you should ask yourself if you feel confirmation about what a moral and compassionate person you are as you fabricate blatantly dishonest narratives so you have a point to launch your disdain at people
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Originally Posted by uke_master
You don't get many Well Named Good Faith Points TM on your conflations about mental health when the way you frame the story about this HS thread is in a way that across the country contributes to mental health challenges every day.
What's so disgusting about this, is that that the societal rejection of trans people is a contributing factor to mental health challenges in the community, much as it was and to a lessening degree is with gay people. Again, we have to knock off a few more Good Faith Points TM.
Since you are so concerned with bad faith posting yet have serious issues with the truth, perhaps you could actually do something other than moralize with fabricated narratives
Here's a few question based on my opinions which you have used all sorts of horrible characterizations for and described as awful. Since you're concerned with "bad faith" posting, you obviously wouldn't be opposed to actually providing an evidenced based argument (which is completely absent at this point)
1. What is wrong with my position that someone born with XY chromosome and a fully functional penis and testicles being a man, and that can't be changed?
2. Given my position on my highschool classmate (below), what is wrong with it, and why?
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Originally Posted by juan valdez
All that said, he is a male and always will be imo. I don't mind playing along with his identity out of politeness (or anyone else) but I'm definitely not shifting my actual beliefs of reality.
3. I believe gender fluid people (people who believe their gender shifts, from day to day, week to week, or hour to hour) are mentally ill. That's my opinion.
a) What evidence do you have that I'm wrong?
b) Is it possible to believe this without being a bad person, and if so, how?
4. Where does your opinion differ from my positions expressed in the previous questions?
I won't hold my breathe
Last edited by juan valdez; 05-21-2019 at 09:55 PM.
Reason: caught about 10% of grammar mistakes to make it readable. For the record I know the difference between know and no