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Originally Posted by Deuces McKracken
I don't know. If one guy has like a house and no other guy does that guy is getting some ass regardless. All other things equal, I get what you are saying, but I don't think all other things are ever equal. The model is too simplistic to be of much value.
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I am not sure what you are saying with the bolded tbh?
Anyway to be clear. Amongst men there will always be a certain percent of guys who will take sex from any women, even if they find her totally unattractive, if given no other option.
When I was in my Uni bar years, if a girl was just looking for sex and she did not manage to get picked up and leave during the business hours, all she would have to do is stick around after the bar did last call and wait. As the bar was shutting down the remaining group (mostly guys) would be all over any straggler girls still lingering hoping to get someone, anyone to go home with them. That last hour before the bar kicked you out was known as the trolling hour, and for more than one reason.
There is no similar dynamic for women. They don't have to set their sites on the most unattractive, left behind men at the bar with no game in the hopes of getting laid. They just have to say 'yes' and be open to it when it presents.
The Apps like Tinder just supercharged the good looking guys with game in their access to sex. In the prior bar setting they can only take one girl home a night and when they get that girl they go home with her even though there may have been 20 girls there who would have went with him had he been able to talk to them all.
In the Tinder age that same guy goes after all 20 of them.
My friend would open the Tinder app and never even look at a profile. He would just do his max hindered swipes 'yes' a day as the only thing he was interested in was 'who was interested in him'. If a person matched with him, he then moves to close the deal. That means the unattractive girl in the bar who may have seen him and liked him and would rarely get a chance with him at the bar, as he seemed to always get a better looking girl prior now just has to schedule a day and time, as he is taking them all.
She doesn't think of that way. She may be hopeful it could be something real that leads to a relationship or more. It may be an ego boost for her that a better looking guy wants to be with her. And that is why so often the first thing you hear from so many women who use the Apps is 'oh those sites are just for hooking up'.
No, no they are not. But it sounds like that is what you got cycled into by chasing the same 20% or so of guys who are just running numbers while ignoring the rest of guys who are not.