Caveats: I'm not super familiar with all the terminology (so pardon any mistakes) and I live in the SF Bay Area (so my experience may be atypical). That being said, here are my experiences:
1. Nobody is likely to care, other than perhaps some curiosity. If you're open about it people will probably ask some super personal questions. So don't flaunt it unless you want questions.
2. Even in the SF Bay area people aren't super knowledgable with thw terminology. I only know "cis" and "trans" from organic chemistry.
Until you posted "Adam's apple," I wasn't sure if trans female meant you were assigned male or female at birth. Expect a lot of ignorance. Most of it is well-meaning.
3. Males don't softplay females unless the females are attractive. I don't know how attractive you are but if you have a deep voice I'm guessing that will turn off most cis men.
4. If you play well, people will give you a baseline amount of hate. So it's pretty hard to say whether you'll get extra hate for being trans. Don't assign all the hate you get to your gender identity.
5. I've never played with a trans that I could identify by sight alone (is that what non-passing means?). But there are several people who I think are passing trans, or at least reject traditional norms for dress and behavior. If people use the wrong pronouns, nobody says anything immediately but usually the dealer or a reg will gently correct as soon as they get up from the table.