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Originally Posted by naturafalla
I don't regret that I didn't try to "nip it in the bud" and talk to the dealer, because I don't think he is worth the trouble. Some people don't deserve the civility because they weren't civil to begin with. And even if I tried to be civil and talked to him, he would probably just laugh on the inside and be glad that he got to me enough for me to complain and try to get him to stop. And then he will probably proceed to talk trash behind my back.
And yes, this is more about revenge now. I agree that having the mindset of spite is unhealthy for me and I'll try to stop, but he is still banned from my tips.
Having that talk with the dealer and trying to nip it in the bud was for YOUR satisfaction and peace of mind. Not his.
Look, we can't control what people say behind our backs, but, if this were me, I'd rather get whatever it was that was bothering me off my chest ASAP. Again, this isn't really for his benefit although it might actually benefit him regardless. Or perhaps he'll benefit from the one-on-one down the road. Who knows.
The reason why you feel revengeful now is because you chose to let it steep and steep and steep; in fact, I bet you've build it up to this great big thing(I'M NOT DOUBTING YOU THAT THIS GUY WASNT THE TOOL YOU SAY, OK?) that probably had a good chance at resolving itself right from the beginning. No one says you have to grovel to him "to be nice to you", and I never said that a simple STFU would be a bad approach either. But, something should've been said IF it has caused you to feel this revenge towards him now.
Lastly, I agree to the non tipping. Apparently, however, that's not enough for you because your peace of mind is compromised whenever he sits in the box. Try to find a way to fix that so YOU can feel better. And, who knows, maybe you'll get a surprise and this dealer will actually apologize(and mean it) and the two of you can have a healthy friendship/aquatance from that point on.
Gl