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09-27-2022 , 07:32 PM
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Originally Posted by DumbosTrunk
As players we have to deal with some really low life scumbags. Maybe I have had to deal with more than my fair share, I'm not sure. But I think a lot of people itt underestimate the cumulative effect of dealing with these types frequently in my player pool. Anyway, you live you learn and I'll take the higher road next time too.
I'm sorry for your negative experiences and am in no way trying to marginalize the effect they had on you. The difference between you and people working in the service industry, including dealers, is that you can just walk away / table change if somebody says something to you.
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09-27-2022 , 08:03 PM
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Originally Posted by DumbosTrunk
As players we have to deal with some really low life scumbags. Maybe I have had to deal with more than my fair share, I'm not sure. But I think a lot of people itt underestimate the cumulative effect of dealing with these types frequently in my player pool. Anyway, you live you learn and I'll take the higher road next time too.
I have made this exact point for literally decades. The casino experience is a complete and total energy suck. In order for me to survive it is imperitave that I have enough positive in my life to offset the negative that the casino is.

If I were to engage in every negative situation that occurs that energy suck that the casino is would be magnified a 100x which seems to be the exact case that you are in.

We both agree how negative the casino is
My solution is spend the necessary time there and not a second more
put on your teflon before entering the casino
dont engage with tools
add as much fun stuff as you can in your life
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09-27-2022 , 09:41 PM
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Originally Posted by DumbosTrunk
Well if you’d just ignore those comments rather than doing something to put them in their place (whether by calling the floor or responding) you’re tacitly condoning them imo. Many people believe that silence is tantamount to complicity.

Also you’re moving the target - no one said you needed to feel threatened, it was whether your dignity would be slighted by such comments which it would. Some remarks are inherently hateful. Eg n word f word etc.
Never said I would not call the flooor or even respond myself directly. Just that his actions don’t threaten my dignity I never even implied I would or would not feel threatened but I woul not. So did not move anything. His actions don’t threaten my dignity.

Agree some words are hateful but again his hate doesn’t speak about me only him. Sure his words might get a reaction from me but not so much that I feel bad about myself
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09-27-2022 , 09:48 PM
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Originally Posted by JimL
While I don't know if I would stand up and defend a whale's poor joke, I also donít think it is worth overreacting to words. Words do not matter. Actions do.

I have had plenty of people insult me at a table. I literally do not care. What difference does the opinion of some random person at a poker table make in my life? The words of some stranger insulting you only matter if you let them matter.

Random strangers at a poker table can say the worst things in the world to me and they do not change my life in the slightest. I still have the same friends and family who like/love me. I still have the same amount of money in the bank. My pets still need to be fed, the mortgage still needs to be paid, the words are just noise.

By reacting to other people's words, you are giving them power over you. You probably see this as weakness. That would be incorrect. It is nothing more than a recognition of what matters and what doesn't.
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09-28-2022 , 04:03 AM
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Originally Posted by madlex
I'm sorry for your negative experiences and am in no way trying to marginalize the effect they had on you. The difference between you and people working in the service industry, including dealers, is that you can just walk away / table change if somebody says something to you.
Not necessarily true if you are playing poker to pay the bills and in a specific game or at a high enough limit where you can't easily change tables. I almost never play any games where I can choose to change tables.
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09-29-2022 , 02:03 AM
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Originally Posted by DumbosTrunk
I think people should speak up when particularly derogatory comments are made, like those inherently racist, sexist, homophobic, threats, etc. It's just not right to let those comments slide.
If it's directed at you personally, it's entirely within your discretion at to whether you should speak up, if it doesn't bother you that's up to you.

Different story if someone is abusing another person, then yeah more likely you should speak up.
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09-29-2022 , 07:23 AM
There is middle ground between saying nothing and "losing it." Work on finding it.
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09-29-2022 , 09:44 AM
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Originally Posted by squid face
I have made this exact point for literally decades. The casino experience is a complete and total energy suck. In order for me to survive it is imperitave that I have enough positive in my life to offset the negative that the casino is.

If I were to engage in every negative situation that occurs that energy suck that the casino is would be magnified a 100x which seems to be the exact case that you are in.

We both agree how negative the casino is
My solution is spend the necessary time there and not a second more
put on your teflon before entering the casino
dont engage with tools
add as much fun stuff as you can in your life
+100
you don't make it over 4 decades without having outside positives.
But I have also made some good friends in a casino that I now hangout with outside the casino, take trips/fishing/skiiing ETC.......

there are plenty of good people sitting next to you ;stop focusing on the bad ones
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09-29-2022 , 10:25 AM
Personally I am more worried on why you would lose it if someone said 'I will smack your ass' It is possibly one of the worst insults I have heard in a long time.
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09-29-2022 , 11:06 AM
Lol yea it’s either gotta be someone who’s English ain’t great or if be laughing my ass off lol
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09-29-2022 , 02:14 PM
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Originally Posted by venice10
There is middle ground between saying nothing and "losing it." Work on finding it.
How dare you apply reason and maturity to these situations. Do you expect people to actually act like an adult!?!?
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