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Originally Posted by JimL
Lots to unpack here.
First, congrats on developing a solid plan on what you want to do in your life. Doing something you enjoy makes a huge difference in the quality of your life. From happiness to health, your life is generally better when you are able to find a way to live it doing things you enjoy.
Second, that all said, the fastest way to kill the happiness you find from some endeavor is to make a job out of it. You love poker now because it is a fun hobby. When you are relying on it to pay the bills it will be different. It will be just like a regular job where you will find some days you wake up not wanting to go to "work". You will slowly realize that you are hanging around a bunch of degenerates who think personal hygiene is optional. You will get emotional when the done in seat 5 sucks out on the river for the 4th time in the past 1/2 hour. You might be spared from some of this I that it sounds like you will be playing poker part time and doing other stuff part time to supplement your income. That is smart, at least initially. It also sounds like you have backup plans and are willing to back off it doesn't go right (the pressure of a wife helps. Don't get mad at her for being realistic).
Third, keep studying and getting better. Never stop. There is a ton of good information on this website and others that you should read. That said, the biggest, most important skill to learn at poker is game selection. Good game selection will make a bigger difference to your bottom line than anything you will learn anywhere. You can be a terrible poker player who barely breaks even in a simple $1/$2 game, but if you can find a poker game with 8 millionaires who don't know hand rankings and are just happy to be gambling then you will do well. Game selection is everything. You keep asking whether you should play at $1/$3 or $2/$5. The correct answer is both. You need to learn the differences in normal play between the different levels so you can take advantage of whichever presents the best opportunity. Sometimes it will be $1/$3, sometimes it will be $2/$5. This requires an honest assessment of your abilities, your state of mind, your bankroll, your mood, and the abilities of the other players.
Good luck!!!!
Appreciate the response. Thank you. Correct, doing things in life that you enjoy on a regular basis is so critical. I just can't live with the idea of doing something everyday because I HAVE to. Sometimes in life, that arises. But for me, at this point in my life, that's not the case. I HAD to work a job I didn't love and do a side hustle an additional 20-25 hours a weeks in order to get to this point. I did not want to start this journey not being in a really great spot.
Second, I agree complete and know that feeling you are referring to. I had fleeting moments of that "this feels like a job" feeling my first go around a few years ago. Definitely sucked but I also didn't have the same money making opportunities that I have this time around...so there is significantly less pressure/fear of that. But it reminds me of all these golf pros (huge golf fan here) at your local courses that often times hate their job. They loved golf at one point, you have to in order to become good enough to be a pro golfer, but now it's just their job and if you talk to enough of them, they definitely don't love it anymore. Interesting correlation.
LMAO @ the degenerates and optional hygiene part...indeed. I remember these folks quite well and that is oh so true. People are sadly fairly disgusting (overall) in most of these card rooms. Hahahaha but hey, I just strive to not be mistaken for one. And I promise I will actually throw away my trash and not throw empty Snickers wrappers on the ground under the table like a neanderthal. Indeed, my wife and I are 100% communicative regarding the goals, hopes, expectations regarding this experiment. The last thing I want to do is put her/us in a bad spot by chasing my desperado like dream!
Noted on the game selection. This seems to be a common theme that I come across over and over and over again. My last 10 month sabbatical I did a poor job of this. I didn't play enough at night and often times I would play on Friday but leave town on Saturday morning, missing prime money making opportunities. I would definitely play too much during the day when the games were littered with OMC types. And yes, I am making a strong effort to study and stay fresh on my knowledge every week. Something that is easy to slack off on but I think seeing the game from as many angles as possible is crucial in my development. Agree with your 1/3 and 2/5 statement. Learn to game select at a high level and play whatever game is the best...doesn't really matter the stakes (as long as it's within my bankroll parameters). Will be fun to get to the point taking shots and hopefully consistently playing 5/10. But we won't put the cart before the horse here....
Thanks for your advice! Please feel free to throw down any further information/thoughts. I plan on chronicling my journey in this thread and keeping those who are interested in the loop as much as I can. Cheers!
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