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Originally Posted by lawdude
I'm not defending dumb, old poker jokes that everyone has heard.
But with respect to "ladies", I do have to say this. There's a lot of profanity in poker. There's a lot of bawdy table talk. It's really part of the game.
Anyone-- of either gender-- who is really offended by such talk shouldn't play. It's that simple.
The vast majority of female players have no problem whatsoever with the fact that sometimes table talk strays into the gutter. Indeed, comments about 69 are far from the extremes here of what sometimes gets said. I don't think anyone should really feel they have to censor their table talk just because a female is at the table. This isn't tiddly-winks.
I agree with part of what you said.
Yes, when you walk into a poker room, you have to have thick skin. I don't let anything get to me. If someone called my wife a whore I would ignore it, wait until I win a big pot from him (or knocked him out of a tournament) and maybe say "Thanks, my wife will appreciate this money." My job is not to defend my family's honor. My job is to stay focused and bring money home to my family.
I also agree that women need to have thick skins when they play. When Dana White said that women would never fight in the USC, Rhonda Rousey said that she would make him eat those words. She did exactly that. Poker needs more Rhonda Rouseys.
Now, where I don't agree.
When you're around someone you don't know well, whether you're on a busy sidewalk, in church or at the poker table, I think it's really rude to use profanity, racial jokes, comments about breast size or any such banter around people who you don't know and who might find it offensive.
You might be at the poker table sitting next to a woman who was verbally and physically abused by her husband before she divorced him. You might have a pastor sitting across from you. Yes, some of us who go to church and read the Bible regularly play poker, in fact, about a year ago I talked to a pastor in the chat box.* A woman who is very active in her church (she's always on Facebook inviting people to church events) lives 10 miles from me. She played heads-up with her coach/backer every day for a year.
My bottom line is that with people you know who can handle whatever you dish out and go right back at you, all in good fun, fine.
I know that this won't be a popular stance, but that's OK. You can verbally abuse me if you want. I almost never tilt, and only when I make a really stupid play.
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*If anyone is interested, I saved a long E-mail discussion with my pastor about Christians playing poker. I wanted him to know that poker was know my job in case someone in my church (or more than one) freaked out.
What actually happened was that there were and are a lot of nerds in my church, especially engineers, and most of them found it interesting and asked me intelligent questions. Of course, many of them had known me for years and new I wasn't a degen.